Hi, just wondering if anyone might be able to help me work out the NWs I'm getting with DD. Not sure if this would be better on EASY thread or if this is the best place for it. Maybe a moderator could tell me. I'm so tired and really don't know if I can exist in this zombie state for much longer. It's worse than when having a newborn.
For the last week or so, she's been waking in the night at least once but often several times. One night she woke 9 times. She was poorly last week so that night could have been that she was ill. But she's better now and the NWs are still with us. Last night she woke at 11pm, 1.10 am, 3.30 and 6.20. Ouch. Part of the problem is I'm between homes and since the start of June, I've been moving around (a couple of weeks at my mum's, a week on holiday, 10 days house sitting, 2 weeks at my inlaws and now it's been 2 weeks at my mum's). During this time DD dud STTN but usually it takes a good few nights to settle and get back to STTN. But at my mum's she's never STTN. An additional problem is she's only had her own room during the 10 nights house sitting. There she STTN for a week. It was wonderful. At the moment, I'm at my mum's and she's in a travel cot 1 foot from my bed, so don't know if this is contributing.
I was wondering if the NWs are coming from a need to extend A times but she seems really tired when I put her down for morning nap, so not sure if it's this. She's also started pulling herself up to standing and don't know if it could be one of those developmental issues. She is sometimes on all fours when I look at her at a NW.
So, the important bits. I sometimes feed her during NW. I have to try and minimise noise as I can't wake my mum, who has a stressful job. It's not that she's said this but I feel terrible when Lola is shouting loudly. Sometimes I boob feed her and sometimes I give a bottle. She never takes much so I know she doesn't need feeding. At about 6 months I weaned the night feed. I think I feed her partly because I worry she might be hungry as I'm BLW and I'm not sure if she gets as much food as she would if she was on purrees.
Yesterday looked something like this:
Wake up and BF: 7.30
A: to 10.30
S: 10.30 to 12.30
E: 12.30
solids : 1.30
A: 12.30 to 3.30
S: 3.30 to 4.30
E: 4.30
solids: 5.30
A: 4.30 to 7.30
BT: 7.30
DF: 11.00 (she woke up then and I assumed it was hungry but she only took 1.5 oz)
NWs at 1.10, 3.30 and 6.20.
I've thought about W2S but I'm not sure when to do it. She had a phase of waking at around 2am and quite a few times she's woken at 6.20 but this one isn't the main problem. I was picking her up for a DF before and she was still waking at 2am, so I decided to just leave her to wake up on her own as it meant I could go to bed early. But lately she's been waking naturally at about 11pm. I've tried to give a bottle but she doesn't take much and then wakes in the night.
Today I extended her second A time to 3 hour 10 mins. I left her sleep a bit longer and she also fell asleep when BF on waking. She's a very lively baby and is crawling non-stop and today started standing up around furniture (and did it in the bath too!), so I don't know if she needs more daytime sleep. I like to do a 2 hour morning nap as it kind of banks a good nap and then if I go out in the afternoon, I know she's had the majority of her sleep already, as she doesn't sleep well on the move. I wonder if she needs a longer nap in the afternoon and whether her NWs are OT, even though she doesn't appear tired. Or does she need more A time. Oh, Im so confused!!!
Does anything stand out that I could tweak or is it just that DD is aware I'm sleeping 1 foot away and this disrupts her sleep? Any help gratefully received...
Sophie
