Amy~ From what I read of your post your MIL is worried that lo will inhale food (as in breathe it in instead of swallow and cause pneumonia etc?) I just wanted to say that imho it would be a lot easier for a lo to inhale a puree deep enough into their lungs to cause this type of issue. And really the only thing that could not cause this problem would be water. I am also a nurse (not that that makes mu opinion any better then anyone elses) and I think that BLW is a very natural way for los to learn how to eat. For what it is worth, their are conflicting opinions about everything in medicine and babies, so it could be argued either way depending on your priorities. And if I am wronf about the inhaling, sorry about this little rant!!
Also from a fighting mommy angle, I had to fight DH and MIL about BLW with DD (even tho I did it with DS, apparently their memories are not that good!) Neither were comfortable with it and felt I was putting her in danger (okay, going blue after choking on banana may have caused this concern!
) But in reality, I feed her everyday and to be honest, my way goes. I mean, she is my child, I would have to deal with it if she did choke (which was also made blatently obvious when she did and they all stood around staring at her), and I accept that responsibility. And your lo has been doing blw for 4 weeks and they are concerned now? I think if it is what you want to do, stick with it. DOnt get me wrong, I respect DH and MIL opinions, but am with Martina about this
Afterall, I'll bet you're the only one whose read about this stuff. I have told my DH that until he reads up on any aspect of parenting, he can't judge how I would like to do things. ... Listen, this is your child's eating habits we're talking about, don't settle for mush if you don't think it's what's best for him.
Good luck with your decision!