Oooo chatty ladies! I've a lot to catch up on.
Welcome to everyone just starting BLW, sorry I can't remember names. Someone was asking about steaming apples and things, I don't, I just wait until they have teeth for really hard fruit. Pears I give once they're ripe and juicy I just leave the skin on to make it easier to pick up. I also don't do one new food at a time, just crack on with a variety!
For sweet foods we never give DD juice, she's only ever had water. We never gave any chocolate, biscuits, cake or crisps at the start as we agreed that she doesn't need them, also she's a complete pig and eats so much anyway! Don't get me wrong we're not the fun police, as she's got older we let her nibble on some goodies. Although I was amazed earlier in the year when I said to DH let's have a cup of tea and a biscuit, DD practically ran to the pantry cupboard shouting 'bikit' repeatedly! I looked at DH and said 'she's had one!' Now if we eat chocolate she'll smell it across the room and ask for some!!! She would eat a whole pack of biscuits if given half a chance!
It's quite nice now she's older we enjoy things together more. Yesterday we shared a cup of tea (decaf obviously) and chocolate covered rich tea biscuit!
DS has started crying for food now. He's a bit more fussy at meals, certainly not a gannet like his sister but he's getting there!
I can't remember who was asking about mess and manners. The way I see it is in the early days they learn through play, DD never played with food until she had had enough! Peas make good fun, some squash, some flick like tiddlywinks! She was a messy eater in that she found her mouth by rubbing down her face! The mess DS makes is AMAZING! What he doesn't swallow gets pulverised & dribbles out! We always enforce manners with her but the spirited monkey likes to try it on, licking off the plate, spitting her water is a new (very annoying) thing! Thankfully dropping and throwing has stopped!!
I don't think BLW encourages bad habits, it's definitely a personality thing, you can only guide and teach your values.