melissa - glad you got a nap yest! Hope she slept ok overnight for you.
kara - hope A gets back on track today
stardust - I think the thing you need to bear in mind is that when you start to cap there WILL be some OT. The OT isn't necessarily coming from capping (so long as you don't push too far/cap too short of course) but is more likely a build up of OT from what has happened over a few days prior to you starting. For eg, last night you got 2 NW's & an EW which certainly sounds OT. However, is it OT because you capped her nap, or is it because the day before she had a super long 3hr nap, went to bed UT & did a short night. DYSWIM? Sometimes it can take a wee while for them to get past the OT & settle into a new rhythm, so it may be you need to do it consistently & keep with the same nap time, nap length & bedtime for at least a week or 2 before you can say for sure whether it is or isn't working.
And (((hugs))) hun b/c I've been there & with DS also being touchy I know how awfully grumpy OT can make him, but I have also learned that in being so afraid of him getting OT, I can often end up putting him down UT & IMHO this is worse, b/c if he isn't tired enough we get EW, and in our house EW = long day = OT. That was a lot of waffle but I really hope it makes sense.
xx
ETA: I also want to reiterate that a 2hr nap is still a really good & restorative nap. If you were capping at say 1hr & she was getting OT then I'd definitely say the nap is too short & its the cause of the OT, but at this stage I don't think that's the issue. I think she is just in an UT/OT loop (UT at BT, OT at naptime) & the way to sort it is to cap, or increase the A time to BT. I think a 2hr nap at 12pm & a 7pm BT sounds good for today though hun. I really do think she'll need a consistent 5hr A to BT if you want to get out of the loop.
HTH.xx