big thankyou to everyone for your replies, sorry it has taken me FOREVER to reply (life really is just a little more crazy with two kids, lol)
jenny, thanks for the reminder, it was my dietician who said about pharmaceutical grade lactose being milk protein free compared to food grade lactose that may or may not contain proteins. i asked paed about using teething relief with lactose and she said to avoid it but then she has prescribed Lactulose for his constipation and it contains lactose
so i have emailed her and will hopefully get more clarification soon. she also said avoid bonjella (and most other teething gels) for kingston as he is salicylate sensitive and most of these have salicylates in high levels so she prescribed Lignocaine Ointment (local anaesthetic) but i think i'll reserve that for when they are cutting.
vikki/mashi, what brand camilia did you use? the only ones i've found so far have lactose too
irene, where abouts are you located? wondering if i can get that weleda brand here.
pinkism, LOVE the frozen banana idea. just need to test bananas to make sure he isnt intolerant to them first!
mashi, just ordered sophie the giraffe, thanks for the tip it looks fab!!
thanks again