Hi well thanks all for your answers. Yesterday was good we had that 30min first nap and then I didn't get your answer until after I'd put him down after 3hr 20 A time, but he slept right through for 1 hour which was amazing for him, but this still only took him until 1.50pm so we did a 6.30 bed time, but unfortunatley we had a terrible night which is so unlike him he was up off and on from 10.40pm until 2.30am, he only needed a cuddle and then went straight back off, but woke again after 20mins. I am praying it was a one off due to the cold. So far today I did a 3hr A time since his night was so bad and got a 45min nap so not to bad.
To answer your questions we do things a bit different in the day than at night. Naps aren't as dark although we have tried that a few times and it didn't make any difference also at night time it is bath bottle prayers then bed. at nap time we watch cbeebies have nursery rhymes and then I stroke his head a bit then leave. Thanks so much all for your advice Love Laura