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independant play
« on: August 16, 2010, 06:46:51 am »
Hi ladies,

I need lo to learn to play independantly. she is 11 months old and tbh tend to depend on us to " play with her" or entertain her ...she would follow me (crawling) when I leave the room.
she just started exploring and climbing a bit, so i m also afraid to leave her alone bc she could hurt herself.
any ideas of how to proceed?

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Re: independant play
« Reply #1 on: August 20, 2010, 00:07:10 am »
Bumping this up for more eyes


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Re: independant play
« Reply #2 on: August 20, 2010, 00:23:55 am »
I wonder how much of it is the individual child. My dd always followed me, cried if I wasn't down on the floor so I always played with her until she got much older but my ds is fine to play alone and will play for ages with his toys. I often just sit and watch him as I'm amazed to see how he uses different objects to play with.

I often start out with putting him down with whatever objects and I'll show him what I would do (as I'm curious to see if he'll follow to do his own thing). I also put down a variety of items at one time but spread out so he has to move to them, ie. his piano, his truck, hard building blocks (which he just loves to chew and bang the truck with), soft blocks, hard paged books and even some wooden spoons. Our house is open concept so I can cook dinner or tidy the kitchen while he's playing but still keep an eye watching him at the same time. Don't think he'd be a happy camper at all if I left the room, but I can't leave him alone as we don't "baby proof" the house as we prefer to teach them not to touch what they shouldn't and as a result he can never be left alone.

I would try putting down a variety for her, spend 5 min on the floor with her, but then remove yourself to another part of the room once she gets engaged, come back if she fusses, walk away once she's engaged.
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Re: independant play
« Reply #3 on: August 20, 2010, 00:25:39 am »
Totally agree...but for us it worked better to come back *before* she protested...otherwise we did things just the same!   :)

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Re: independant play
« Reply #4 on: August 20, 2010, 00:31:40 am »
Agree with pp that it is prob. mostly personality but  this might help: I found a fun post on toddler activities where one mom suggested "play stations" so I have a book corner and two baskets in different corners of the living room/dining room of oddsnends - wooden spoon, measuring spoons - lots of different shapes and textures. And she has a box of stuff under her crib so she's used to having different things to do at different times of the day if that makes sense. Sometimes she still wants me to be close but I don't have to entertain. Also, the tupperware drawer is still a big hit.  ;D
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Re: independant play
« Reply #5 on: August 21, 2010, 06:55:07 am »
Thank u ladies, these are really great ideas - I will def try them out :)
Lo is quite adaptable and responsive, let's see how she ll take it X


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Re: independant play
« Reply #6 on: August 26, 2010, 11:21:54 am »
Hi, so this has been working well for us, the stations work great.
She still prefers to stick around where I am at times, but I notice its when she wants smthg...
Thk u for the tip


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Re: independant play
« Reply #7 on: August 26, 2010, 13:37:36 pm »
good to hear! She's a cutie, btw! :)
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Re: independant play
« Reply #8 on: August 26, 2010, 15:24:37 pm »
:):):) thanx :) urs is too, very much so :)