Baby K pretty much eats every 3 hours with cluster feeding at night. Today will probably go like this...
E - 7:00
S - 7:40 - 10:40 (getting lucky this morning, she's been restless, but she's still sleeping)
E - 10:45
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S - 11:35 start to wind down. This is where it gets hairy. Eyes open to shut is no more than an hour, but if she does happen to make it to her crib and actually stay asleep, I get no more than 45 minutes before we start playing the "pacifier game" where she spits it out and I replug it until her next feed.
E - 1:45
A
S - have to pick up DD1 at 3:00, so she will likely take a 15 minute nap in the car and come home way OT at which point I will hold her in the sling for a nap while I try to play with DD1
E - 4:30
A
S - 5:30 - 6:30 catnap in the swing while I fix, eat and clean up dinner
E - 6:30
A
E - 7:30
S - 8:15 for usually 6-9 hours (this part I am extremely happy about!!!)
Her room is completely blacked out and I use a white noise machine. She does have a bit of reflux, but nothing that causes her discomfort - she's a "happy spitter."
The thing that I don't get about S/P is that do you leave them in the crib the whole time - even if they are crying? I switched from shushing to a heartbeat sound as it is easier on me and seems to distract her more (I also use it during our 4S as a sleep-time cue), but if she starts crying, she usually can't be calmed with S/P. She just cries right over the noise and the patting. She did for 30 minutes off and on yesterday when I tried to extend her nap (although she was probably OT).
I'm thinking it might be wise to hang back a bit on the sleep training until she can find her fingers. She needs to suck and as she can't replug herself, she can't really self soothe. She tries to suck her hand, but it doesn't really do it for her yet since she can't control it - she winds up just wacking herself in the face and getting upset.
I really want to lay the foundation for good sleep now (consistent wind down), but as far as expecting her to put herself back to sleep without replugging the paci, I think that may be unrealistic at this point?