Frustrated, Tired, Don't know what to do!

[bizebek]

I have a 4.5 daughter and have been Baby Whisperer since she was about 2 weeks old.  Unfortunately, I feel like I'm getting very little back from being so "ridged" with her routine.
The last month of nights has been horrible.  This last week - worse!
Last night she went to bed at 6:45, awake at 7:45 and awake off and on until I fed her at 9.  I dream fed her at 11:00.  She was up at 12:30, 12:45, 1:30, 2:30, 3:00, 5:00 (I nursed her), & 7:00 (I always nurse her when she wakes at 7 to get our day on a routine).  2 week ago I started pumping an hour after I nursed her and then gave her the bottle after I did the dream feed.  She would take the 2-3 oz.  Some nights she would sleep longer, but some nights she wouldn't.  So I decided to up her day feedings and instead of pumping I would nurse her.  She's always been an hour napper, but two days this week she has had 2 hour afternoon naps.  I don't know if this is due to a fuller belly or what.  I'm trying to decide should I go back to pumping that hour after I nurse her and save it to bump her up at night and at least get a three hour night time stretch (Hopefully) or continue with the day feeds (which I worry are going to be a habit).
Two days ago, it took me an HOUR to get her down for one of her naps - an HOUR of screaming!  That's the thing, when I put her to bed for her naps, whenever - she always cries until she all of a sudden stops and is asleep.
I know this is a rambling post, but I'm sleep deprived and so frustrated!  Any suggestions for me?

I have not moved her to a four hour routine. I have not started her on solids yet, she is solely breastfed, and I think she needs all those feeds in a day.  So here is a typical routine:

E- 7
A- 7-9
S- 9-10

E-10
A-10-12
S- 12-1

E-1
A-1-3
S- 3-4

*E-4
A-4-5:30
S- 5:30-6:15

E-6:30
A 6:30-7:30
S 7:30/8:00

*this is where is can really get off - from here to bed time.  Especially if we go off in the evening.  She has a hard time sleeping in the carseat (go figure!)  I would say she is typically in the bed around 7/7:30, but then the evening/night wakings start happening!

Thanks for any suggestions.
By the way, this is my FIFTH child!  I only heard and tried Baby Whisperer with baby #4 and it was after she was 5 months old, but we never had such horrible nights!

[Tweakster]

Hi there, how did you settle her at those times in the night there without feeding?  How is she waking i.e. crying?  Does it seem like some kind of discomfort?  Has she started teething yet? Does she have any props like a paci?  What's your wind down for naptime like?  Where does she sleep?  Is she still swaddled?

I think you might give some thought to moving her to a 4 hr EASY - slowly if you need to, so start at 3.5 or whatever, just to see if that helps you.  She could be snacking.  She also may need more A time.

[lulunut]

Big Hugs for you!

[ABGsMommy]

I have been going through something similar with my 5.5 month old (started about  months).  I have not been consistent, so I know that contributes to it, but actually, sometimes, when I don't do something right for a day, I then "start over" and it almost seems to reset her or something.

[JoandTrevor]

I empathize! My 16 wk old was almost going through night at 9/10 weeks, but only going to sleep after final 10:30 feed> Moved to going to bed at 7p at 10 weeks, relived to have evenings back! Then suddenly awake every hour. Last feed 6:30p then dream feed at 11. However, only taking 3 oz approx (been fully bottle fed for 1 week). Thinking about dropping dream feed and seeing when he wakes and how much he takes then, hoping he will go through to at least 330. He has been on EASY since 4wks. Is your LO super active/interested? I wonder whether that affects sleep. Mine naps in the day for 45mins morning and aftternoon and then an hour at lunch if I am lucky! If we are out and about he will sleep for up to 2 hours. Seems to have beginnings of separation anxiety...or maybe I am contributing as I am so tired!!
Sending you lots of best wishes for a better night