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When to feed and when to settle?
« on: December 18, 2010, 09:08:28 am »
So I've implemented the DF and been doing it consistantly for over a week now. She has sttn twice until just after 6. Tends to wake around 4 normally though. Thing is before the DF she would go from 7 until about 3 anyways so still in two minds about it.

 Last night she woke at 2am, I just instinctively fed her but halfway through I realised I probably should have settled her instead. Should I? Part of me just thinks its easier to feed as she just goes straight back down after but I dont want her to think that waking=boobie. Kwim?

 
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #1 on: December 18, 2010, 13:48:10 pm »
When DS did the same thing I usually tried to settle first since I knew he could go longer stretches. Sometimes it worked, sometimes not. When it didn't, then I would feed.
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #2 on: December 18, 2010, 16:16:26 pm »
I tend to feed sand have to say she always takes a food feed. If she were only taking a few sucks and falling asleep I'd be thinking about resettling. Did D take a full feed at 2am? Did she feed well through the day? I think we've hit another growth spurt! Up half the night feeding and eating loads today!   
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #3 on: December 18, 2010, 16:20:30 pm »
I did a DF with Spencer right from the get go, and she still woke 2x a night for a feed until 5.5 months...I always fed her as she seemed to want to eat, not just for comfort and it never came back to haunt me...one night she just slept through one feed, and after awhile dropped the 2nd one too.  I suppose trying to settle her first would give you an idea if she really is hungry or not and you can go from there.
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #4 on: December 18, 2010, 18:26:42 pm »
(((((((HUGS)))))))Shiv. Luckily we've not had another since the 3 week one.

 She never has fed long for the NF but does give a good suck for 5 mins then falls asleep. Her nightsleep seems to be getting worse since the DF. Well not worse as she's only waking once a night still but it does seem to be getting a touch earlier each night. Napping is awful though, just awful. Afternoon A's are still stupid...like 3/4 hours then a 30 min nap. Just ridiculous! Hoping it developmental and it'll get better after the 3/4 month mark.

 I guess I'll see what tonight brings. She is so inconsistant. When DS sttn the 1st time that was it he did it every night since bar illness/bad OT/teething.

 This wee monkey keeps me on my toes thats for sure.
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #5 on: December 18, 2010, 18:46:43 pm »
{{{hugs hun}}} 

Isn't it funny how different babies are?  At this stage Maeve was doing 11-7 consistently but daytime sleep was non existant and R is the exact opposite.  Sleeps well through the day (AP'd at the 35-45 minute mark!) but still awake several times a night to feed.  Nightsleep with M when down hill at 4-5 months (when naps got better!) so hoping R's night sleep gets better then!

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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #6 on: December 18, 2010, 20:00:15 pm »
I know hon! Just trying going with the flow with it but I KNOW nights can better as she has done it before. Previous to introducing the DF she did a couple of 12 hour nights straight through, I only started the DF as I thought it would then mean 10.30/11-7 for sure kwim? Not turnig out like that though. These babies will keep up guessing! Then I'm in a quandry about naps....for the last few days, week even she has started napping 2 hours in the morning for 1st nap. Settles independantly the whole lot, but then after that the day goes to absolute pot....naps get shorter and shorter and after 4pm non-existant. Pffft.  :-\

 OK, totally digressed into a rant there and thats me going with the flow.....ha! You cant keep a good BW'er down!

 Going to do the DF as I managed to pump 4oz in one session today so would be a shame to waste, was thinking of quitting it and seeing what happens but I'll see what tonight brings first off. Will try to resettle before 3am I think. Thing is I still think of her as this teeny wee newborn and she's almost 12 weeks now. I went to supermarket yesterday and when someone stopped to coo and asked her age I said 8 weeks! I LIED  because I cant bear to see this little treasure get older! How sad! Especially as she's a right wee chunker! :-[
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #7 on: December 18, 2010, 23:29:38 pm »
The DF isn't for all babies.  It can be disruptive to some LOs night sleep and seeing as D was doing so well before if it doesn't seem to be helping i'd be inclined to drop it although then you'd have to be prepared for a MOTNF for a while yet. 

How long is her A time after the 2 hour nap?  Have you another thread on this?  R's A times are ridicuously short.  Seriously.  She wakes.  I chat to her, feed her, change her and about a minute after that she's grizzling and I always think theres no way she could be tired already but give her her dummy and her eyes practically roll back in her head and she's asleep in minutes.  We has gotten so used to sleeping in our arms so I spent last week getting her to sleep not in my arms and she did really well.  Bless her!  Will D sleep in her pram?  Or is it still impossible to AP naps?  I think R is just so OS...hard not to be with M running in circles round her, kissing her, pulling at her and shouting at the top of her voice. 

And can you believe they are 12 weeks?  How did that happen?!!  And I totally get what you mean.  I hate people telling me how big she has gotten!!
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #8 on: December 19, 2010, 20:45:56 pm »
 Shiv just posted on the naps board today....feel free to join me and help!!

Was thinking re the DF. I pump about 3.5/4oz for it. I do it in the morning and it takes me about 20 mins to get this.....brilliant I know! Anyways my thought was perhaps I should be feeding her MORE that what I am pumping considering she normally eats for 20 mins each side. Does that make sense? Just thinking out loud really. i also realise its not sensible to go giving BF bubs big bottles but she must be taking more than that at each feed if thats what I can pump kwim?
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #9 on: December 19, 2010, 21:29:14 pm »
 Is she draining the bottle? If so I'd add extra if you can to get a good idea of what she is drinking.
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #10 on: December 19, 2010, 22:12:49 pm »
Yep she's draining it. Might try pumping an extra oz or so. I take it the older bub gets the mroe you can pump at each session as they are drinking more?
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Re: When to feed and when to settle?
« Reply #11 on: December 20, 2010, 15:42:53 pm »
It depends on the person. It always took me a couple of pumping sessions to get enough for a bottle whereas others get enough to do in one session. I'd try an extra oz and see does that help. That's great she's taking a bottle though! I still haven't even tried
R. She is so much easier to feed than M ever was and is a really quick wee feeder. Although if these night feed continue I will be getting that pump out!
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