Ok, here are some thoughts.
Go ahead and drop the dreamfeed anyway if you feel she is ready. You can do it gradually if you like. She might not make it up right away, but I would think she will start to add it to the daytime feeds soon enough once she realizes she isn't getting it at night. Here is more info on dropping the DF:
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=54662.0Normal milk intake around this age would be between 24-30oz. 36oz is way too much anyway. Without the DF she's getting 21, which is almost enough but still a bit short. If she doesn't add a few more oz on in her bottles, think about offering yogurt, cheese, or milk in her cereals instead (if she can tolerate dairy). You can also get creative in other ways making sure she gets that extra few oz of nutrition that milk provides by sneaking it into her diet. Avocados are good for fats, dark leafy greens and broccoli are good for calcium. A varied diet will fill in the extras that are missing if she's a teeny bit short on milk for a bit.
Don't stress if she doesn't want the solids, it's still really not about the amount of solids she eats at this point. Keep the milk feeds going and let her decide if and when she wants solids. But do offer it. Will she eat more if you offer finger foods instead of being spoon-fed? Maybe she feels pressured to eat but if you just let her eat at her own pace she will figure it out.
I don't really see any problem giving milk and solids at the same time like you are doing if she is still drinking all her milk and it's working ok. Maybe you can try introducing milk in a sippy at meals as well and see how she does with that.
I can tell you this. We have been doing BLW with DS2 because he was just not interested in being spoon-fed. In fact, he hardly showed any interest in eating at all. But it really didn't bother me, I just offered when I could and he just scoffed at it. But at around 7mos he started to take an interest. He is 8mos now and he's starting to get the hang of it. Still not a big eater, but I can really see that I just needed to back off and let him decide when he was ready to eat. Some days he eats next to no solids, but I know that as long as he is getting all his milk then he's ok. BLW has really been the way to go with him, and I'm happy to not stress about getting a spoon into his mouth!

There is more useful info and some links here if you like:
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=182686.0HTH
