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Offline Georgiesmum

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getting 2yr old to sleep alone?
« on: January 06, 2011, 02:27:55 am »
Since George turned 1 my husband or I have been sitting or lying with him till he sleeps both at and day nap.  I want to stop this and have started sitting with him instead of lying, first touching him, now further away at the end of his bed.  He eventually falls asleep but it mostly takes over an hour.  A lot of the time he is getting up for a drink or to go on the potty or around just playing. Each time I call him back to bed or if he doesn't come I pick him up and put him back.  I tried going out of the room last night, but the first time he cried and the second time he and his 5yr old sister just played together then came out (they usually go to bed at same time and she goes to sleep alone quite quickly but had a nap in car so was awake longer than usual last night) .  As he is in a bed not a cot, I am not sure what to do, how to get him staying in bed and going to sleep without me.  I am frustrated with staying with him so long and have another baby due in 7 weeks. Any advice greatly appreciated.
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Re: getting 2yr old to sleep alone?
« Reply #1 on: January 06, 2011, 10:31:25 am »
Hi!

Just noticed your post and thought it is quite similar to mine! So I am sending hugs andletting you know that although on the other side of the world, we are in the same boat!!!

I too was having to hold my sons hand for him to fall asleep. He would only allow me to put him to bed, not my husband!!  A few weeks later, we are now at the stage of putting in bed with my key phrases....shhh, sleepy time. Then sitting with my back to him at his bedroom door and not taling to him. He now goes to sleep in 15 minutes (usually!).

I have just posted a new topic - 2 year old - gradual withdrawal and night wakings. Advice and support!

Thought it might be useful to you to see any responses I get??

Hope you have had a better night!


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Re: getting 2yr old to sleep alone?
« Reply #2 on: January 06, 2011, 15:52:09 pm »
could you give us an idea of what your routine looks liek for the day ie naps and wake/bed times?  might help to figure out if routine needs a tweak.
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Re: getting 2yr old to sleep alone?
« Reply #3 on: January 07, 2011, 00:42:36 am »
Wakes between 6:15 - 6:45am usually. Lunch is followed by nap about 12- or 12:30 for about 1 - 1 1/4 hrs (takes 15mins to get to sleep at a guess).  Evening goes for story 7pm or so followed by pyjamas, and goodnights - takes 20 - 30mins.  By the time he's asleep its 8:30 or 9pm.

On the days we go out (2 -3 times week) its a 30 - 40 min drive and he falls asleep in the car - can be as early as 9 am, then usually falls asleep on the way home - whatever time it is (its usually between 2pm - 5pm).  If he doesn't fall asleep on the way in, he'll crash out at some point in the car, while we do errands.  When he's had a late sleep in the afternoon, we make bedtime later - story closer to 8pm.
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Re: getting 2yr old to sleep alone?
« Reply #4 on: January 11, 2011, 06:13:11 am »
Waiting for some advice.  Its taking so long for George to get to sleep, and sometimes I get very impatient.  Not sure how to keep him in bed and I would like him to go to sleep independently.   Just another point, at night when he wakes he comes to our bed and sleeps with my husband (who likes that), I go to his bed to be alone!!
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Re: getting 2yr old to sleep alone?
« Reply #5 on: January 12, 2011, 09:13:40 am »
Hey there....we have a lot in common...!!!

My ds #1 is 2 and a half, ds #2 arrived 15 weeks ago. Before the baby came i really put a lot of effort into trying to get Tom to go to sleep on his own, I would sit at his door until he fell asleep, after a few weeks I would leave the door and come back to check he was alright. once the baby came, he would get into his bed and tell me to "check the baby mommy", and thats what we have been doing for weeks now. We went home to my parents for a week over christmas which set us back a little, for example last night I had to stand at his door again....but I know within a few days we will be abck to "check the baby...".

I say "I" here as I am the one who puts him to bed, dh works the weekend night shift and ds is very attached to him so I thought it best that I do the putting to bed, at least that way, especially at the weekends, things would always be more or less the same at bedtime.

Our problem with night wakings began during the summer. He would go to bed at 7 and at about 3/4am come into our bed. DH would then take him out of the bed and back to his own bed and 9 times out of 10 fall asleep with him!! At the moment we are still enduring these night wakings, I have tried putting him back into his own bed and he invariably wakes up and comes back to us. The more putting back to bed we do the more upset he gets and I dont want him to scream the house down with ds #2 sleeping through the night. So I guess I am in the same position, I also then have the added joy of practically being on my own from thursday night until monday morning becasue of dh work, I must admit I usually let ds #1 climb into bed with me  on these occcassions as I am too tired to start the bed battle.....

So I know we have a decision in this house to make, do we continue as we are, or really put the effort in  and get him into his own bed for the entire night. As I struggle with this decision I tell myself that mat leave will soon be over and whats worse, before I know it my two darling boys will be all grown up and wont want to come near mommy and daddy's bed for cuddles and sleeps, I have never heard of a 12 year old sleeping with their parents!!!!!

I dont think I have been any help to you, but lots of hugs and luck as you tackle this problem xx
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Re: getting 2yr old to sleep alone?
« Reply #6 on: January 12, 2011, 12:46:23 pm »
Have you tried a bedtime closer to 6 or 6:30?   With only an hour nap it could be that he is OT by 7:30 and that is making it hard to settle on his own.  And falling asleep at 9am in the car also indicates that as well
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