I hope you get some answers/help Sabs. It's so upsetting knowing your LO is in discomfort and not being able to help. =(
No idea what my LO's excuse is, he just keeps waking at night. Sometimes I feed him so maybe that's what he's looking for. I'm just hoping if I set a few limits on the number of time/timing of his night feeds he'll gradually start sleeping through on his own. Only now he's started waking at 5am and not wanting to go back to sleep, urgh. =/
In the daytime my more laid back approach seems to be working. It's totally non-BW, but that's the way it needs to be until DS1 is at school all day I think.