He's just not eating...

[Tweakster]

Yeah no I meant to comment on that.  He won't.  It's a texture thing I think.  He'll only drink milk and water and juice at daycare.  He's not a big drinker at all which is half the problem with the poop issue.

I guess if he's eating well at breakfast and daycare then it's not such a big deal.  He's only eating well at breakfast because he's not having dinner though lol

[my3girlsjde]

Can I join? I'm so there with one of my twins. And it's hard to watch as D's losing weight while J happily eats and since they're identical I can see D's genetic potential and she's lagging behind in her weight quite a bit. One will eat everything and the other one has a bite of this or that, asks for something and we give it to her. She has a bite and then says "yuck!" and puts it down.

I'm thinking toddler-itis too but this kid's gotta eat! All her teeth are in, they both have texture issues but J eats just fine. I tried milkshakes yesterday morning. J loved hers but D refused. She loves juice and that's about the only thing I can get her to have consistently. We're giving multivitamins (she'll eat half the time) and trying not to make a deal of it. Any time she asks for something (within reason) we give it to her nonchalantly but still she'll only have a bite or two.

Really at a loss

[Mom to M&M]

Wendy, it could definitely have to do with both his ear infection and that he's tired by dinner time after a long full day. I didn't realize he was eating well at breakfast and lunch - if that's the case I think that's great! Most kids only really eat well 2 out of 3 meals IF you're lucky... Lately here we don't even get one good meal.

[Tweakster]

Ok so DH talked to daycare, apparently he's hoovering up the food there. 

Example:
Yesterday he had yogurt and toast before leaving the house
At daycare morning snack (it's more like breakfast) he had 3 pancakes lol
Then he ate quite a bit of lunch, she says he eats lunch fine
Then a snack at 3:30 and then again at 5 they throw them some Goldfish crackers and Cheerios.
And then I pick him up around 5:30

So it's not really a surprise that he's not hungry.  I'm going to make dinner more casual I think, no big meals, until I get a signal that he's truly hungry again.  I think I'm just going to do sandwiches and finger stuff - fruit, veggie sticks, cheese.  We are just wasting food when I make a meal and there's no point.

@Vicki - we give Finn a multivitamin too...it's shaped like a star.  He used to just eat it up but now he plays with it for half an hour, licking it, putting it on the table and picking it up again, carrying it around...arrgh - it's frustrating lol  So if he doesn't eat it I have to throw it out.  Ah well.  Hopefully it's just a phase!

Have you talked to your doc about the weight loss?  Finn is a big solid kid so it's not really an issue, our next appt. is in March for his 2-yr check.  Just going to play it by ear here until then I think.

[my3girlsjde]

Wendy - we'll probably mention it to the dr if she continues to really lose or refuse food. I did notice today though if I offer small things constantly that she'll graze. She won't sit for anything big so I'm going to try smaller portions more often. But for her to sit to a bowl of something is almost out of the question.

[mmom]

Ladies, M won't eat his multi either.  I mash it up and put it in his juice, despite the direction of needing to chew it.  The pharmacist says this is fine.  Maybe worth a shot to get the vitamins in them?

[Love, laughter, & PJs]

I'm going to make dinner more casual I think, no big meals, until I get a signal that he's truly hungry again.  I think I'm just going to do sandwiches and finger stuff - fruit, veggie sticks, cheese.

This is absolutely what we do when A is being super picky.  He'll almost always eat at least a bit of bread, fruit, and cheese, so I don't bother to make a meal for him when he's not eating well.  I'd rather do this and not waste the food or effort and hopefully get at least a few calories in him.

At least you know he's eating at DC - that's good news.

[Tweakster]

Yeah they told me last night that he's one of their best eaters - they put it in front of him and he eats.

Best eater best sleeper - who is this kid and why don't we get the same at home lol

In reality after reflux and sloooow start to solids he IS in fact a great eater - I think I am just panicking because a lot of friends I know have picky 2 & 3 year olds so I'm just worried that we'll lose our good eater.  Just making mountains out of molehills I guess.

[mmom]

Best eater best sleeper - who is this kid and why don't we get the same at home lol

They are always better for other people.  M screams and fights us with sleep, but always goes right down for his grandparents and the babysitter.  I just try and be thankful that he is like that, so others like watching him.

As for the food, even if he does become a typical toddler and get picky, it sounds like he is doing ok.  The poor kid has been sick for such a long time and it is amazing that he even eats that much!

[Tweakster]

Yeah it's true.  Right now I am upstairs counting to 10 and DH is downstairs trying to deal with lunch.  He's just an absolute disaster.  Screaming in his chair about we have no idea what.  He won't tell us what he wants, or what is wrong...he told us he is hungry yet won't eat.  I got him some milk and he screamed when I brought him the cup and pointed to the cupboard, wrong cup apparently.  He threw his fork of food at me, screaming for more of stuff he already has! He does this often 'more more' he signs more yet he's already got a plate full.  He told me he wanted down then when I tried to get him down he was trying to buckle the buckle back up as I was taking it off, crying all the while.

We can't give him any painkillers because they said nothing a week before surgery (ok actually we could do Tylenol but it doesn't help him with teeth).  Oy vey.

Nap time anyone?  Please let it be a long one.

[mmom]

Hugs Wendy.  It is so hard when they are like that.  I hope he settles down. 

[Mom to M&M]

Big hugs from me too

[Tweakster]

Nope - nap refusal on top.  1 hr of him screaming and carrying on.  I get that he's been ill and teething but he can nap and eat at daycare even through all if it, they haven't had 1 napping issue from him in the entire 10 mths he's been at daycare.  So what's the deal at home - seriously?  I find myself raising my voice with him today - PMS unfortunately.

[mmom]

I wish I had a suggestion for you.  My friend's LO only naps at day care.  Her daughter won't sleep at home and it drives my friend nuts.  I've got nothing but more hugs.

[my3girlsjde]

Hugs Wendy

Tonight we sat D down to supper with an empty bowl. The rest of us with a meal and she calmly asked for more from me. She ate more tonight in that one sitting than she had in the past week of suppers. Just a thought, but maybe overwhelmed by portion sizes? Will he eat a bite or two of what you're having? Now this may be a fluke but I'm going to try it again tomorrow.

Just a thought but it really worked tonight for us. Not sure why but after the past few weeks of supper time fiascos I'm ready for a change.