help- emotionally scarred my 8 month old!

[newbabe]

Hi
I feel so awful, have an adorable text book (little touchy at times) 8.5 month old boy. A great sleeper, all night since 3 months old, and by and large good naps  too. 4 nights ago we had my neices staying over so my LO slept in our ensuite in his travel cot. He was not used to either the room or the cot but settled easily.
He obvisouly woke himself at 10pm, but I didnt hear him as the baby monitor was turned down low. He could not have been crying for more than 5 mins, but when I went up to him he was petrified, in hysterics, unlike any crying he has ever done. He didnt settle properly for about 3 hours, bouts of this hysterical crying on and off. He settled at 1am sleeping beside me (which we have never done).

He was pretty upset at times since, but slept each night since, except last night, woke and esculated into panicked crying although we were beside him. Got up with him at 6am and he was fine downstairs in his walker munching on toast.
Sellled and slept well for todays first nap, but the crying started again for the second nap.. .

Any advice anyone......feel like security was my big thing since my LO was born and now I have messed it all up. Im totally not a "controlled crying" supporter so am devastated...........

[kayra]

Hi, I don't really have any advice but I just wanted to say don't be too hard on yourself. That night when you didn't hear him was only 5 minutes and he was probably upset because of the different surroundings as well. I'm sure in time he'll settle back to not crying so much when it's time to go to sleep. Could there be anything else involved, like teeth?
hugs xx

[toocuteboop]

Hi, just wanted to let you know I have a similar situation....... I've never had a clingy baby, but unfortunately I had to go away for a week without my 11month old son. When he woke at night his Daddy was there but he looked for me and cried and cried! Since I got home he has become clingy which I know can be his age as well. The days are ok now, I keep popping out of the room telling him I am going but will be right back, I then tell him when I am back.  He seems to be understanding that now. He only wakes once at night now and wants a cuddle from me, I tell him its ok Mummy is here then goes back to sleep. I am gradually building his trust back that I am here. I felt guilty at the beginning, but I had to go on the trip and couldn't prepare him or explain what was happening. Perhaps a similar approach would help for you?! Good luck

[*Ali*]

http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=126141.0
I have pasted the above link just in case you want to have a read and see if anything might help in your situation.
Hugs to you and your LO. I'm sure things will settle back down soon with all the love and comfort you're giving him. 

[newbabe]

Thanks Guys, He was better last night, woke at 23 crying but stopped easily and settled to sleep after half hr. Woke wide awake at 6am but happy in his cot byhimself. Maybe a growth spurt also?? yes to the teething, seems constant!!
Thanks again!

[newbabe]

Hi all
Just to let you know, one month on, we discovered the problem!!!! (I posted on the bottle feed section just now)

Cow & Gate amalgamated their 0-6monhts and 6-12 months "Comfort" formula into one suitable from birth to 1 yr,  but.....
THE INGREDIENTS ALSO CHANGED.......after a whole month of my lo not sleeping nights I contacted cow & gate...turns out there is soya in the new formulation, and also increased fish oils. 

The nutritionalist I spoke to immediately said it was prob the soya, and advised me to try get the old 6-12 month formula (gone from big supermarkets but I managed to get from shops & chemists}.

From the first day back on the old formulation, he slept the night fine, and continues to do so.

Grrrrrr......I could murder someone in Cow & Gate!!!!

[kayra]

oh my! Glad you have an answer and a solution but how frustrating!!!! you poor things! You should file a complaint.
xxx
k