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still wont eat fruit or veg
« on: March 03, 2011, 00:02:10 am »
well, no, he does eat carrots. but thats it. when he was really young he used to love veges all the time, then he stopped liking them. he never liked fruit but once in a blue moon will devour a watermelon, or a banana or something like that, but truely once a blue moon!

It makes going to other peoples place difficult. I get "You shouldnt give in and let him leave the table" or "that boy needs to learn to eat" I usually tell them "Im not worried, hes in the 95th centile, hes certainly not lacking and he eats a huge breakfast, if hes hungry he will eat" but then other people get upset that the food THEY made is being refused, he wont even try it. So I end up bringing something I know he will eat and they are amazed at how much he eats but thinks I spoil him by doing this.

The thing is, I never bring really healthy meals, its usually something like butter chicken or homemade spaghetti etc, he loves those types of meals, anything with pasta or rice and a meat and sauce. I add veges and he either picks every single vege out or just flat out refuses to eat the meal.

With the earthquake just happening here I began to wonder how would he have coped if we had been majorly affected, in teh fact I wouldnt be having food that cater to his desire, but it would be meals where he would have no choice but to accept whats being offered in front of him and I worry that hes not getting the vitamins he needs without fruit and vege, yet Im sick of adapting a meal to make sure he eats it.

I made a meal last week and the only thing he did eat off the plate was the carrots!! I didnt know whether to be ok with that or not.

Im not really looking for ideas on how to get the fruit and vege into his food unseen or anything like that, I know how to do all that because Ive done it. I want to know how I can get him to just eat the dam thing without so much hard work being involved! I mean I cant go to a visitors house and say "can you puree some of the vege and add it to his xxxx food please?" it just feels ridiculous.

Ive tried the whole 'missing out on a meal cos he wont eat it' and he doesnt care, he will get another meal at dinner/breakfast/lunch. MIL tried this with DH when he was a boy, DH would only eat fish fingers and MIL made a meal that DH wouldnt eat. So she kept reheating it every mealtime (and having to replace it with the same thing after it went hard and old)...... she gave up after a week and gave him the fish fingers.





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Re: still wont eat fruit or veg
« Reply #1 on: March 03, 2011, 00:13:25 am »
Have you tried a dip? Yogurt for fruit, sour cream for veg, etc? There are so many options!

I often hide veg in Nathan's food when he isn't eating a lot of them. There are lots of tips in here: http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=105078.0. There are few things as satisfying as being able to tell someone that the pancake you just handed your kid is full of spinach!
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Re: still wont eat fruit or veg
« Reply #2 on: March 03, 2011, 00:17:37 am »
tried all those things Amy, doesnt work :( he actually really doesnt like dips, even if he puts something he does like into a dip he wont eat it.





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Re: still wont eat fruit or veg
« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2011, 00:19:34 am »
I hear you Jo!

My dd has a similar reaction with fruit. She only eats Apple, Strawberries and just recently we've added Bluberries. When she was younger she ate Pear, Kiwi Fruit, Banana, Cherries, Grapes etc... but went 'off' all of them, and now only has the above three - and sometimes even refuses those. Also won't drink any fruit juice of any kind. Like you, feel as though she is missing crucial vitamins etc. I've tried encouraging her to taste what is on my plate, but she isn't the slightest bit interested. She won't dip into tomato sauce or anything either  ::)

Sorry to hijack your thread, but listening in for any good advice on introducing/encouraging them to try fruit/veg.

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Re: still wont eat fruit or veg
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2011, 01:08:34 am »
I don't think there is an easy answer.  You can't make him eat Jo.  I have seen some kids literally live off of Cheerios and Goldfish crackers for years.  Are you giving him supplements?  That might help make you feel better so you know he's getting some of what he should be getting.

What are you aiming for as far as fruit and veg?  I found my expectations were way too high and had to look at the whole week of what he ate, and realized that he actually was eating decently on average.  Do you have a sense of the amount you would like to see him eat in a day or a week?

Frankly I don't have time to hide veggies because I don't cook meals that I could hide anything in lol   My meals are basic, a protein, a grain and a side of veg.  I mostly give him raw veg now because he prefers it.  And I do use a lot of dip.  He's taken to using carrots or cucumbers as a scoop for eating the dip but at the very least he's eating some of the veg while doing it.  Or even if he doesn't it's the exposure that is really key.  I don't cater but I'm not a harda$$ either.  I offer something I know he'll like and eat and other stuff I want to continually expose him to so he'll eat it someday.

Toddlers are the worst eaters on the planet, and he's just got to make the decision for himself as to what to eat.  Kids have a survival instinct and our bodies are built to take what they need.  He'll eventually manage to eat some of what he needs, even if it isn't every day.

As for the other people who feel the need to comment or determine what he should and shouldn't eat.  Well I don't have a lot of nice things to say about that lol

(((hugs))) I know it's frustrating but I think you are doing all that you can hon
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Re: still wont eat fruit or veg
« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2011, 01:31:10 am »
well im not offering him many veges because I cant afford to cook up food thats going to be wasted all the time. Probably, broccoli (which he calls Trees) carrots, which he will eat, potato, sometimes very rarely eats, corn and thats about it. he gets tomato in the pasta sauces.

He refused his lunch today because it had mixed veges in it (chicken satay with rice and mixed veges) so he short napped for only an hour, waking up hungry.....





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Re: still wont eat fruit or veg
« Reply #6 on: March 03, 2011, 03:03:37 am »
As for the other people who feel the need to comment or determine what he should and shouldn't eat.  Well I don't have a lot of nice things to say about that lol

I have to agree. People that think they have the right to comment on your toddlers food habits, clearly have no idea how hard it is to get a toddler to eat healthy, balanced meals at every sitting. Try not to let them get to you. *hug*

She won't dip into tomato sauce or anything either

Obviously I was referring to dipping vegies in tomato sauce... not fruit!  :-[

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Re: still wont eat fruit or veg
« Reply #7 on: March 03, 2011, 15:43:54 pm »
Jo, as you may know from my monster thread/other postings on this board, we have some picky eating issues big-time. Not only won't my DS do fresh fruit or veg (he does fruit in smoothies or freeze dried fruit, veg in soups or pizza or sometimes sweet potato fries), he doesn't do meats other than bits of chicken in soup, nuggets (I make my own) or like pasta bolognese (he loves meat sauce).

I do keep offering small amounts of fruit or veg with most meals in hopes that one day he'll try it again (he used to LOVE fruit until 15-18 months). When he gets a bit older I'll ask him to try it, or at least lick it/taste it. But he's not there yet in terms of "getting that" - but might Caleb understand?

What about growing your own fruits and/or veggies? Our house/yard isn't set up to accommodate a garden yet but maybe next year. But it has worked for many others. My nephew, who's now 9.5, still doesn't like veggies (other than potatoes and corn) BUT will CHOW down on fresh green beans or other veggies that they grown in the yard.

As for bringing food, I generally won't bring an actual "meal" to someone's house (or a restaurant) but I might bring along applesauce or yogurt or the like. And if he doesn't eat much dinner I will offer a filling/healthy, but boring, bedtime snack like french toast or oatmeal.
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Re: still wont eat fruit or veg
« Reply #8 on: March 03, 2011, 15:51:11 pm »
boring, bedtime snack like french toast

What?  I use french toast as a meal lol  It's not boring, I love it!

I understand about the wasting food Jo.  I get that.  I do throw out a lot of food and it's frustrating.  But this is just a phase.  You could maybe just put down 2 or 3 baby carrots, or one or two cucumber slices.  It doesn't have to be a lot, he just has to continue to see something on his plate.
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Re: still wont eat fruit or veg
« Reply #9 on: March 03, 2011, 16:05:25 pm »
LOL Wendy, I love it too. But to DS it's not as interesting as say cereal or the like.

Yup on the quantity thing. Like this morning there were 4 little blueberries on his tray along with his bagel... (they got fed to me LOL)
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