To your comment about "accepting short naps"...
Before reading BW, I was not aware of baby's sleep cycles and that it's very common that babies wake up 45-45 mins. Since I didn't know that, I just thought Mia's naps were over, so I'd pick her up and went about our day. After 15-20 mins, I could tell she would get tired and fussy, and didn't understand why since she just got done with a nap. After all those weeks of me getting her out of her crib after short naps, I think it really hindered her ability to self-soothe and continue napping.
I can completely sympathize with you. Sometimes I think it was less stressful to unknowingly accept the short naps. But, I can see how the difference in Mia's moods after short naps and long ones and in the long run, I'm going to continue to work on getting her to nap longer. And it's ALOT of work!!! I cry too, get discouraged, and plain exhausted but I try to remember our end goal is a well rested baby equals a happy baby.
I'm trying W2S right now. I find that it's been working just one nap of the day, but some days it doesn't work at all. And when it doesn't work, I'm doing ssh/pat. Mia is swaddled so I don't pat, I gently rub her chest while I ssh and I do not continue to ssh 5-10 mins past the jolts. It seems more distracting for her. So after she closes her eyes and looks serene, I stop rubbing, slow down on the ssh, and leave the room. Thankfully, Mia can make it thru the jolts on her own. BUT, it's alot of work and takes alot of commitment. In the end though, a happy baby is so worth all the sacrifice!!!