OMG I just have to share!!
For the last 2 days not only have I managed to DS to have a nap, in his bed, but WITHOUT any screaming, crying or tantrums!!!! What a MASSIVE improvement. BT's are good too.
I read this article on a technique called the "pop in" technique, where basically you go in and check on them at increasing intervals but only if they are not crying or getting out of bed. Kind of like a quiet CIO and no crying!!! Out of desparation I needed to try something!!!
So I tell J to get into bed, I give him a kiss and a cuddle, tell him that if he lies quietly mummy will come back and check on him soon. I then go back after a couple of minutes, stick my head in the door and say good boy mummy loves you I will check on you again soon. And I can leave without him making a peep. He has really taken to it!!
It has been 5 days and every day we have had improvements, with yesterday being a completly scream, tear and tantrum free day!!!!
Down side to this is that now he is napping we are back to EWíngs, but will live with them for another week or so, A) to get him settled back into sleeping independantly again and B) to fully adjust to daylight savings which ended last weekend.
Then we can tackle the routine and get him sorted!!! I am hoping that it will be fairly easy now the screaming seems to be over (long may it last)
The momo clock is helping a little in the mornings as well, he will normally go about 30-45min happily reading to himself before he starts calling out, I have then been letting him bring his books into bed with with me and he reads quietly until momo wakes up. Not ideal but it means i am still resting and we aren't getting out of bed till 7, which by that time he has actually been up for at least 1hr if not 1.5 so I cant really complain.
I feel like it is such a HUGE relief and I am feeling so much better about it!!! I hated the screaming!!!
I can't thank you all enough for your help and support over the last month with this!!! No doubt i will be back in a couple of weeks for some routine tweaking!!