Hi,
My LO (8 months) used to be able to fall asleep on her own at bedtime if I just left her in her cot (sometimes with a bit of calming first, and providing no teething/cold/OT.. issues). I would leave the room while she was still awake and she would nod off on her own.
However, for the last week or so, when I try to leave the room at the point I used to, she will look up at me and kind of whine until I go back. I then just sit down next to her cot which (almost always) calms her and she starts to nod off again. However, if I try to leave again before she is in a deep sleep, a creaky floorboard alerts her to my leaving and she whines until I sit down again. In the end, I have been sitting with her for a few mins after I'm sure she's nodded off so that she is in a deep sleep and the creaky floorboards/door don't wake her.
I am guessing this is separation anxiety (SA), although she doesn't really show any signs of it during the day when she is awake (or for naps).
I just want to check if what I'm doing is the right thing to do? Am I setting her up for always needing me to stay there to fall asleep? Or is it OK/best to stay with her now until the SA phase passes? Or is there another approach I should try?
A related issue is that the same thing happens if she wakes up during the night - we have to stay with her until she is in a deep sleep again so we can creep out without her realising. However, last night, for example, she was waking about every 20 mins or so for about 2.5 hours! And we were having to sit with her for a good 10 mins each time she woke up. (So we didn't get much sleep for those 2.5 hours!) Do we just have to be patient, stay with her as we are doing and wait for SA to pass? Or are we creating bad habits?
Any advice/suggestions would be really appreciated.
Also, if anyone else has experienced this - how long did it take for this phase to pass??
Thanks