We're at the door.....

[georgeo]

DS will be two in a week.    For various reasons we lay on the floor until he is asleep.  We've used GW and are now not at the door.  We have worked our way from the crib before and then something like teething or sickness brought us back to putting our hand on him.  Now we're at the door and don't know the next step .  He has never fallen asleep without us in the room but he can self settles at night  if he wakes up (although we often go in and give him a drink...but we're working on this) and if we have to wake him up in the mornings he will often tell us to leave the room and then fall back asleep  I actually think he will fall asleep quicker if we're not in there.  We don't speak to him unless he's upset, but we're in there.  

So.....what do we do next?  I'm guessing we should speak to him about how he doesn't need Mommy or Daddy in the room to go to sleep anymore and then to Walk-in-Walk-out.  Do we go in if he calls our name or only if he's upset?  

Thanks

[Tweakster]

Hi there, frankly I'd just tuck him in, walk out and see what he does.  Sometimes we don't give them enough credit.  He may just surprise you.  Talking about it may help, build it up during the day.  Does he have a lovey or favourite toy to sleep with?

He sounds like an independent sleeper if he can settle at night and without you sometimes.  WI/WO would work if he needs reassurance.  I would try not to go in, reassure him from the door.  If he cries and needs settling then you can go in and remind him that you are there but that it's time for sleep.

It sounds like you are making great progress!

[koe2moe]

agree with wendy.  try speaking from outside the door.  it's hard work but you're getting there xx

[georgeo]

Thank you ladies!!! When I wrote this post ds was also in the middle of the "I want a drink, I want another blanket, I want another drink, etc." for ages and we fell into the trap;) Anyway we wanted to sort that out before leaving the room. It took a couple of days then on Monday we gave ds a groclock and dh decided to just give it a try leaving the room since the clock was a change already. I nearly had a heart attack as I'm the queen of take it slow but he said "the ladies on BW said to try it so I did." And......it worked! Ds now tells us that he doesn't want us to stay in the room and has been going to sleep on his own. It hasn't been perfect...I think a routine tweak might be needed, but we're so proud of him for taking to it. Thank you so much for your advice. I totally didn't give enough credit to him and would be lying on his floor at this very moment if it weren't for you ladies...and dh deciding to make a major change without speaking to me first;) lol.

[koe2moe]

so happy for you, Georgeo!! xx