DS is 11.5wks old. His naps have always been all over the place because initially he struggled to get past the 10/20 min jolts (which is now resolved) and since a couple of weeks old he's always always struggled to get past the 45min mark...He's a big boy (15lb already
) and feeds 4hrly (sometimes longer) but there's no way he could manage the associated A times.
Previously he's been pretty good at actually going to sleep, it was just the keeping him asleep was the problem, but now that's starting to become more difficult. Similarly, he would always go down for the night pretty well and I wouldn't hear him all evening but now he's started waking up 45mins after he falls asleep and sometimes again 45mins later so this is a seriously OT little boy I have on my hands now. He's also started having frequent NWs and EW's. Sigh.
When possible I've been AP'ing the second part of his nap if I can't sssh pat him back to sleep to try and get him to at least sleep. Going for a walk is a no-no as he wakes up after 45mins in the pram or car and won't go back for ages.
This was now today went:
1.30am - Bottle
5.30am-6.30am - multiple dummy plugs as clearly not ready to get up
7.10 - up and bottle
8.10 - took him up for nap
8.20ish to 10 - Sleep although he woke after 45 mins I tried to get him back to sleep and he would drop off then wake up a few mins later so 10 was when I gave up trying any longer)
10.40 - Bottle (he was falling asleep during this so...)
10.50 - 11.30ish - Sleep
12.30-1.10 - Sleep
2.15-2.45 - Sleep (not sure why it was so short but he woke up screaming)
2.45 - Bottle
Tried to put down for nap but kept falling asleep then waking up after 10/15mins then I'd have to resettle and eventually I gave up at 3.30 because my mum turned up.
She AP'd a nap for me from 4.30-5.30 but he kept stirring and struggling etc.
I took him up to bed at 6.15, he was asleep after a lot of crying at 6.45 and then he woke at 7.30 and has been shuffling about up there ever since.
Any ideas? My DD was a terrible sleeper before I used BW and even then she still was a complete dummy addict and I can see DS going the same way, he's much more grumpy, he doesn't smile as much as before, he whines and cries whereas we would barely hear him. Obviously his nights are becoming majorly disturbed because he's having problems switching off and I can't remember a time when he woke up and was happy rather than waking up early and very tired.
He did get diagnosed with mild reflux which is well controlled with meds and his cot is raised etc, he's also got lactose intolerence but we aren't seeing about that until next week but his only symptom is really ick nappies now, the wind/griping pains he had with it initially have calmed down (probably as he is getting nearer to the magic 12 weeks) and he doesn't seem to be in any kind of discomfort with his tummy now.
I desperately need to break this awful cycle that we are in before it spirals out of control like it did with DD, who is now suffering from me being constantly up and down the stairs trying to settle her brother or asking her to keep the noise down because I'm desperately trying to AP the second half of his nap...her behaviour is getting increasingly worse due to boredom/lack of attention I think
Any advice would be much appreciated, the 45min napping is killing me slowly...
Nic x