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Re: Back at work, NW in 9.5 mo are proving to be too much for me!!!!!!!!!!!!
« Reply #30 on: August 06, 2011, 21:37:53 pm »
Things calmed down last night and he was fairly happy today, but I hear/see the reflux symptoms now so clearly.  Last time he teethed, he had a rough time for 3 weeks or so and I didn't realize why he was so restless until it was all over.  Yikes!  I talked to DH and we are going to make another appointment with Dr and ask for a Ped referral.  I just have to remind myself that he can't ask for more meds so I have to do it for him.

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« Reply #31 on: August 06, 2011, 23:01:13 pm »
((HUGS)) I often needed the lovely women on here to open my eyes as well.  It is always easier to see more clearly after as well.  Good luck with your doc!
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Re: Back at work, NW in 9.5 mo are proving to be too much for me!!!!!!!!!!!!
« Reply #32 on: August 07, 2011, 21:17:34 pm »
Last night was really good.  Bed at 8:00 pm.....bedtime wasn't great, ended up medicating because he was clearly tired, but definately uncomfortable.  He woke at 1:30 am, drank 7 oz and then went back to sleep until 8:00 am.  He was in good spirits today, but didn't want to nap, so it's an early BT for tonight.

Just wanted to check on something.......a friend of mine suggested that maybe Harrison needs a bedtime snack.  IYO, do you think the bottle he has for his NW is comfort or actual hunger?  It is at random times and he downs the whole bottle no problem......but I also know that he gets great comfort from his bottles.  I'm curious as to whether or not a little snack might help him sleep better.

Also, he's got a slight rash on his back at the top today.  It is a little bumpy rash.  It could easily be heat rash, but more and more I am thinking that there might be an intolerance.  What would a rash caused by MPI look like?  The HAF should be here next week, so I'm eager to try it.

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« Reply #33 on: August 07, 2011, 21:44:23 pm »
I am so glad you had a better night. :) I really think your LO is comfort feeding during the night.  But how are solids overall?  I think that makes more of a difference than the last feeding.  For us, we have always had solids around 4, bottle 5:30, bed at 6.   Just to give you an idea of how spread out things are. 
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« Reply #34 on: August 07, 2011, 23:56:54 pm »
Horrendous bedtime.  We have been trying to get LO to sleep for 2 hrs now, DH had to take over because I was getting really frustrated and LO could sense it.  What do you think I should be doing when I am holding him in the rocking chair after his bottle and he starts to push away from me and fight being held?  I am pretty sure that I read somewhere on here that normally, you would put a baby who was doing this into his/her crib, but is that the case when you know there is discomfort?  His teeth were really bothering him tonight and he was fussy during his last feed and when it was over he launched into screeching and only stops intermittenly for 30 seconds or so.  I medicated (again.....) and it didn't seem to help much.  When he was pushing against me and fighting me, I put him down in his crib, thinking he might be trying to tell me that he wanted to be left alone, but that made him cry harder and he scrambled to pull himself up to get back to me, so I picked him up and didn't try putting him back in.

OK, we have been doing solids at 5:30 pm, last bottle at 7:45 pm, bed at 8:00 pm.

I find it hard to judge if he's getting the right amount of solids.  He does eat very well (IMO).  For breakfast, he typically has oatmeal and some sort of fruit (banana, strawberry, blueberry, peaches etc).  His lunch is usually pasta with veggies and meat........he eats lasagne, chicken casserole, sheppards pie, etc.  Supper is usually parts of whatever we are eating, but is usually only fruits and veggies (ex: sweet potatoes and some apple sauce).  He will usually have a snack in the afternoon, which will be a teething biscuit and yogurt.  Then you know, he also has a bottle in the morning, usually only drinks about 6 oz because he's had a feed at night.....has a 4 oz bottle at am nap, 4 oz sippy cup of formula at lunch, 4 oz bottle at pm nap, 8 oz bottle at bedtime.

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« Reply #35 on: August 08, 2011, 22:32:12 pm »
Another rough bedtime.  He is now in the living room playing because I can't handle it.  When he was in my arms, he was ok for a bit as long as he could climb around on me.  This really frustrates me when he does this, so I tried to lay him in his crib and he immediately scrambles to stand up and then cries for me to come.  When I pick him up, he's ok for a second until he realizes that we are not leaving the bedroom.  He is fighting bedtime so hard, it's really getting to me.  Teeth or not, I can't spend 2+ hours each evening and 1+ hour during the night trying to get this kid to sleep.  I can't handle it anymore.  I never ever thought that 10 months in, I would still not have a shred of a life back.............I am not looking after myself at all because the time that I do get when there is help, all I want to do is sleep and get stuff like cleaning and laundry done.  I love this baby more than I love anything, but some days I feel like he is sucking the life right out of me.........whew.  I need to take a deep breath.  I am just really having a hard time with the way it seems like we are just getting by instead of living.  Yes, we get help......my mom will relieve us so that we can get a night's sleep every now and then but no matter what help we have, I feel like we are treading water because things are getting no better and I can't even think about doing this for another month, another 2 months......however long it is going to be.  No one in real life is any help because every single one of them says that we need to just let him cry and there is no possible way I can do that.  No matter how frustrated I get with him, I could never bear the thought of him wondering if I'm ever going to come back for him....

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« Reply #36 on: August 08, 2011, 22:42:01 pm »
So many (((HUGS))).  It IS exhausting.  Sleep deprivation is killer.  If you have your mom to help, let her help and SLEEP.  Don't cook, clean, or do any chores.  Just rest.  Your world will not fall apart if your laundry isn't done.  Sure it feels unsettling, but it will be ok.

Have you called your doc?  Call him when your LO is screaming the house down.  Even if it is after hours, let him hear what you are going through.  You need a ped or GI referral.

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Re: Back at work, NW in 9.5 mo are proving to be too much for me!!!!!!!!!!!!
« Reply #37 on: August 08, 2011, 23:17:21 pm »
Hun I really don't think he is very well. We had lots of drama weeks ago and no one could work out what made DS so unsettled. Turns out it was a virus and he was sick :( In your case I think it is more the reflux, but there could be a bit of an intolerance to something he is eating too? ....DS could never tolerate bananas (caused reflux flares and sore tum) maybe something similar is causing him pain? Strawberries are also a common fruit that can cause issues. Does he eat anything acidy like tomatoes?

Hang in there sweetie big big hugs and as Kara says get hold of that Dr, take any help you can get and rest up. :-*
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« Reply #38 on: August 09, 2011, 01:32:19 am »
He eats bananas, strawberries, and foods with tomato sauces and he eats lots of dairy.  Noticed over the last few days that he gets a little bit of a runny nose after having a bottle, and he's been fussy after meals a few times, so a food intolerance sounds like a reasonable culprit to add to the list.  I have ordered nutramigen and am going to do a dairy free trial once it gets here.  Question:  should I do just the diary free first, or eliminate those other foods too?

Called the Dr. office and talked to receptionist, am waiting to hear back from my Dr., I said that Harrison is definately experiencing some kind of discomfort and that his dad and I would like a referral to the Ped.  I am also going to meet with the public health nurse tomorrow morning at 10:30 am.  She helped me before so am hoping that she may help this time around.

Talked to DH tonight (just after my meltdown and subsequent post).  He is going to handle NW for the next few nights so I can catch up a little.  Am feeling slightly less overwhelmed, and feeling pretty lucky to have DH.

I will update.  Thank you so much for the hugs and support.  Impossible to do it without help from others who have been or are going through the same.

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Re: Back at work, NW in 9.5 mo are proving to be too much for me!!!!!!!!!!!!
« Reply #39 on: August 09, 2011, 01:47:31 am »
I would just be very wary of tomato based food for refluxer. They are very acidic. Also citrus. No idea why but bananas and strawberries are common foods that cause reflux flares too.
He is going to handle NW for the next few nights so I can catch up a little.  Am feeling slightly less overwhelmed, and feeling pretty lucky to have DH.
Great to see you are working as a team. We all need some time to recover from sleepless nights. :-*

I wonder if maybe you should just try cutting out the tomato/citrus, strawberries and bananas first as it is easier to do. If you find no difference then talk to your pead about Dairy. I would have thought if it was dairy you would have noticed by now IYKWIM :-\

((HUGS)) It is SO hard, and you are a wonderful mum. We all get burnout sometimes esp with unsettled LOs xx
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« Reply #40 on: August 09, 2011, 09:50:32 am »
Interesting about the bananas Sara!  We have never had issues with them. They have always been a safe food for us.

I would cut the citrus though.  I think that is a good starting point, especially if reflux is flaring.

So glad you are getting some rest.  Hang in there.  I hope you get a ped referral soon.
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« Reply #41 on: August 09, 2011, 11:44:57 am »
what fruits would be safe?  Is there a list of potential reflux aggrevating foods somewhere?

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« Reply #42 on: August 09, 2011, 17:42:53 pm »
I talked with the public health nurse, she said that she believes we need a second opinion and that we can a). go back to our Dr and ask for a referral to the pediatrician here.  Only problem with that is that he is very busy and there will likely be a wait.  or b). go to the outpatients department at the children's hospital in the city where we will get looked at right away.

I think we are going to be taking a drive.............will update later.

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« Reply #43 on: August 09, 2011, 18:22:24 pm »
I'm sorry DS is having such a hard time.  For us DD can have apples, pears, blueberries, raspberries and mango.  Bananas seemed to be OK for a while and then caused a huge reflux flare about 4 months ago and I haven't tried her on them since.  Peaches also didn't seem to work for her.
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« Reply #44 on: August 10, 2011, 05:17:49 am »
THanks for the heads up on the fruit.  Going to make sure DS doesn't get the acidy stuff.  He has actually had alot of peaches lately.

Went to outpatients in the city tonight, got a great Dr, who upped DS's dose of prevacid to 15 mg.  X fingers for us that it will make him more comfortable.