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Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« on: August 22, 2011, 20:14:45 pm »
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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #1 on: August 22, 2011, 20:22:12 pm »
Marking my spot.  We had 11h night and a nap but not sure how long, probably 1h15-1h30.  DH was home half an hour earlier than normal and we had a no meltdown evening, it was so lovely.  Everything was just a bit more relaxed and DS not as tired.  Managed to put him in bed around 8:45 and I think he fell asleep soon after or around 9.  Not sure what tonight will bring, though. 



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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #2 on: August 22, 2011, 20:39:21 pm »
So we did a 45min nap and am aiming for a 7:30pm latest( I know should be 7pm but that is impossible). Pray for a decent wu time tomorrow ladies. 

You know, I never really gave the late bt a shot! I tried one night but it just failed and I had no time to myself. I go to bed at 9/9:30pm.  My SILs all told me that they all did a 9pm bt.   ???

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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #3 on: August 22, 2011, 21:18:57 pm »
4 days in a row of nap refusal, does this mean I need to join this thread???
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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #4 on: August 22, 2011, 21:56:30 pm »
Dana, welcome to the thread.  We had a big developmental leap and there were nap refusals and SA then, which was about two months ago but I don't think DS is dropping nap but I came  here already hehe....  Either way you are very welcome

Sabs, I only do 9 bt because DS wakes mostly after 8!  We end up always going to bed way too late because we have a lot to do at night.  But for us, we very much prefer late start than 5:30 wu which we had for 17.5 months long :(!!!



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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #5 on: August 22, 2011, 22:24:05 pm »
Sabs, hope 45mins works for you tonight. K actually settled much easier compared to hour + nap.  Didn't call us back into  his room at all. Asleep by 8pm. Not bad - now let's see what time he wakes...



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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #6 on: August 22, 2011, 23:49:47 pm »
We got the caregiver to go 1 hr, so 12:40 - 1:40.  He was ready for bed (and actually admitted to DH he was tired - fleetingly but still) and out by 7:30.  I'm hoping this might be the ticket?

Sabs you can do a later bedtime of course but you will have no time to yourself.  If you want to do a later bedtime I'd let her nap 2 hrs and then try a 9 bedtime, expecting her to be up by 7 latest.  And you might find that night shaving even more.  Personally, I'd rather have an early bedtime if I'm getting an earlier waking but then you need to decide what's most important.  Having a long break in the day with a later bedtime or having her asleep earlier in the evening.

We can't do a later bedtime because he has to be up by 6:50 no matter what during the week.  So we're stuck expecting him to sleep in this very small window of time.  Which is why bedtime for us really needs to be earlier, like 7:30.  Hopefully we've managed to get there...we'll see I guess.

Jen hang in there, as you say he's going to school soon and nap isn't an option.  He will get used to it, but it's going to take time. 

Koe hang in there too, you seem like you have it kind of figured out :)

Dana welcome, I doubt it's pure nap dropping but probably ready to cut and adjust.  What's the routine look like now?
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« Reply #7 on: August 23, 2011, 00:02:30 am »
Great job Wendy. I hope this works for you.  So this has been a crazy evening. This girl keeps telling me she is NOT tired. What gives!!! I am tired!!!  We started our wd at 6pm, bath, snacks and T.V. came up at 7pm for story time. Alyssa normally goes down first at night but tonight she is a little later as she had a later nap. So hubby had to go to sleep so we went into Madi's room for story time. Yay right! She started jumping on her bed, playing with her sister and hiding under the blankie.  ::) ::) ::) After 15min of this I told her I have to go bring A to her room and she of course got out and stayed in her room.  Hubby came and told her to stay in her bed. This took us to about 7:45pm and she went silent. Why is this girl not tired? Is she just fighting the tired signs? I am really thinking we have a big developmental leap going on!!
It is 8pm and A is never up at this time. I can hear her talking through the monitor. I learned my lesson-no napping until 3pm.

I agree Wendy, I rather have the evenings to myself for now at least.

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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #8 on: August 23, 2011, 00:46:02 am »
I hope you're right Wendy because with DD2 doing short naps/still having NWs, I feel like I get no break! R wakes up around 6:45 each day (give or take about 15 minutes) and her nap is usually between 12:30-1 until about 2-2:30.  She has always been on the low sleep needs side so it's about 1.5 hours on average.
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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #9 on: August 23, 2011, 03:09:53 am »
It seems B is much younger than your LO's hmmmm...

He had a 3 hour sleep yesterday (I woke him) he was so happy all afternoon, no bad behavior... But he didn't fall asleep until 7.45pm (restless until 8.15) and woke early at 5.30am. I put him down just after 12 this afternoon and lights out in a few minutes.
So... 3 hours is too long. I'm thinking if he has a long nap I wake him at the 2 hour mark? WDYT? Thing is at 1 1/2 hour day nap he's just awful. He's still quite young though so I'm not sure WTD!!!
I think I'm going to cap his day nap at 2 hours (that's if he does sleep that long!) with a 7pm bedtime. I reallllllly need nights to my self. I'm also a fan of earlier nights = earlier mornings. I just don't know if I should count A time from when he wakes in the morning or set a lunch nap? Sighhhhh...
Does anyone have any ideas? Keeping in mind he's 25mos.
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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #10 on: August 23, 2011, 10:04:23 am »
Finn started at that exact age Alice.  He's only 29 mths and we are still fiddling with nap length.  First it was bedtime shenanigans, like crazy time.  But he would then sleep longer in the AM and we'd have to wake him.  Then we had nap refusal a few times.  So we started cutting. 

I would definitely cut him back to 2 hrs.  3 is a lot of day sleep for his age.  Start with 2 and see how he gets on.  It might be all you need to do at this point to maintain a decent night.
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« Reply #11 on: August 23, 2011, 10:56:16 am »
We got a 5am wu! She came into my room and fell asleep on my bed until 6:30am. 
I had such an awful headache last night that I couldn't take her back to her room. i have told her this am that I am going to put a gate at her door.

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Re: Support for Dropping the Nap age 2-3 Part 4!
« Reply #12 on: August 23, 2011, 12:04:06 pm »
On a 45 min nap you need an earlier bedtime hon.  With all these early wake ups and short naps she's not getting a chance to catch up.  If you are going to cut the nap early bedtime is the only way to compensate.
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« Reply #13 on: August 23, 2011, 13:04:18 pm »
I know. I tried for an early bt last night but she wanted nothing of it. It took me 30mins to get her down.  We were in her bed early but she just kept getting out and saying she wasn't tired.

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« Reply #14 on: August 23, 2011, 18:15:29 pm »
so we are out this evening. I let Madi sleep from 12:30-2:10pm.  She woke up in good spirits. Of course, she wanted to sleep on the sofa. Now I don't know what time I should tell my SIL do bt?  I was thinking 8pm. Oh boy, are they going to have fun with her. LOL 

She never did well with nap cuts. If only she would not fight me when it comes to bt!!