Hello ladies
My DS is now 4.5 months and up until now I've been kind of winging it with regards to nap extension because DD only started school on Monday and also just his age didn't lend him to being a great napper.
I used BW with DD and she responded well to ssh pat and PUPD but then she was a crier. DS is the most chilled out little guy ever and even if he's OT he will very rarely cry and that's just who he is - cry for food and that's about it so I am lucky in that respect.
Now DD is in school I really want to crack getting him to have a good AM nap because realistically it's the one where I can get things done in and also DD has to be picked up at 2pm currently (it will move to 3pm next week).
He's never responded well to patting because we've never needed to do it and PUPD isn't really appropriate as he doesn't cry. I try W2S EVERY SINGLE DAY and nope, nothing. He cannot get past 45 mins so after a couple of attempts to resettle him I will bring him downstairs and AP the rest of his nap by cuddling him back to sleep and then popping him on the sofa but clearly that limits me as to what I can do around the house because I can't leave him.
Yesterday our day went like this
NF: 4.15am
W - 7.30
E - 8.00
S - 9.20
Woke after 40mins ish so AP'd nap until he woke naturally
W - 11.30
E - 12
S - 1pm (he was really fussy and was out for the count straight away, not sure why)
W - 1.45
S - 3
W - 3.45
E - 4pm
S - 5.30 - 6.15 (this is the only time it comes in handy!)
E & BT - 7pm
Again he went through until 4am ish and was up for the day at 7.35 - back down for nap at 9.20 and I woke him accidentally 30mins later , left him 15mins to see if he would resettle but just lay there, looking around then started chatting so I have cuddled him in and he went straight back to sleep on me and I've transferred him to the sofa.
I honestly don't know what to do next to try and get him to sleep for a decent length of time in his cot in the morning. I've accepted that after that point it will always be hit and miss depending on what we are doing in the afternoon and he does cope very well with short naps etc but sometimes he looks dog tired and I could cry for him because he really does try to go back to sleep but can't quite seem to do it.
He's got a black out blind in his room although it's not pitch black in there, we have white noise cds to block out any potential noises from the street. He has a dummy to go to sleep and often goes to sleep at night without it and doesn't tend to wake for it until he's seriously OT in the day.
W2S hasn't worked for him at all, I've tried at 30 mins, 35 mins and most minutes in between and I try every day but with no luck. My DP has some succes getting him to sleep again at the weekend but that can take almost 30-40 mins of resettling before he goes back to sleep.
Help, I'm stuck!
