Author Topic: Switching to Formula (Read 3379 times)

mickey44 · « **on:** December 17, 2011, 15:16:26 pm »

Hi, not sure where to post this feel free to move if need be!

DD2 is 5 days old now, I feel I've given things are good shot and BF is just not for me. I remember with DD1 I tried BF to but just managed to make it home from the hospital and then gave up. We have been home for 3 days now I think I'm giving up. Things are actually going well, it's just me, I don't like it, don't feel comfortable doing it and think things would be better with formula. I'm just looking for support. I think I have reviewed all the pros and cons list of both breastfeeding and formula feeding and still want to do formula. I know it isn't as good for your baby.

I'm just looking for support and advice.

Ima shel Alon · « **Reply #1 on:** December 17, 2011, 17:10:47 pm »

I was in the same situation. Lasted tiny bit longer, but not much.
I don't think there is right or wrong, better or worse - there's just what is good for you and your baby. I wish someone was there to tell me that to even just take off the pressure.
You'll love your baby just the same, you'll be a good mom just the same, you'll have a happy healthy child just the same.

Jenn+Ethan+Emily · « **Reply #2 on:** December 17, 2011, 17:12:22 pm »

((((((hugs)))))) Sweetie!

~Emma~ · « **Reply #3 on:** December 17, 2011, 18:57:33 pm »

((((hugs))))) Sweetie

I have BF one bub and bottle fed one bub and they are as healthy as each other, in fact DD gets more things (she has allergies, eczema etc) than DS does/did and she was the BF one!

Please dont beat yourself up about it, if you have made your decision its important that you are happy with it.

Happy Mummy makes for a happy baby.

Shiv52 · « **Reply #4 on:** December 17, 2011, 19:24:53 pm »

{{{hugs}}}

Agree with Emma, happy mummy=happy baby xx

cuckoochick · « **Reply #5 on:** December 17, 2011, 19:44:41 pm »

(((((((((Hugs))))))))

lilybug25 · « **Reply #6 on:** December 17, 2011, 20:09:29 pm »

I Tried to Bf my oldest daughter, lasted 5 days of pumping then dried up, my milk never came in, I was so so harsh with myself for not Bfing her. With this baby I Bf for the 1st 24hrs then pumped for 2 weeks then milk dried up, I was ok with this. I was never comfortable with a baby on my breast it did not feel natural for me at all. I never found the experience bonding either. I am happy and calm this time around with my choice not to BF.
I hope you can feel this way too, there is nothing wrong with formula feeding.
Hugs

~Sara~ · « **Reply #7 on:** December 17, 2011, 20:17:26 pm »

Nothing but love and *hugs* from me, hon. I'm not too keen on bfing either, and only have been getting by with trying to get through 1 day and 1 week at a time. With Aaron, my supply dried up after some antibiotics. I felt guilty until I realized that it hasn't impacted our closeness one bit. He's an extremely healthy and smart little boy. He's the sun in my sky. Don't worry a bit about what others think. Find the right balance for you and your family.

Here's a link that's helped me (and helped me with Aaron) realize how much even a little bit of bfing can do for our babies:
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=124914.0

*Becky* · « **Reply #8 on:** December 17, 2011, 20:54:33 pm »

Quote from: ~Sara~ on December 17, 2011, 20:17:26 pm

Don't worry a bit about what others think. Find the right balance for you and your family.

THIS xx

*Kara* · « **Reply #9 on:** December 17, 2011, 21:48:01 pm »

Hun, do not feel bad one bit!

I too tried to BF DD and she just wasn't having one bit of it... it stressed me out, it stressed her out... bad scene all around really. She has been bottle fed exclusively since she was 10 days old... has had one cold.. it lasted 3 days (I had the same one and was sick for 10 days!).

Happy momma = happy baby and vice versa

Shiv52 · « **Reply #10 on:** December 17, 2011, 22:02:42 pm »

Quote from: ~Sara~ on December 17, 2011, 20:17:26 pm

I felt guilty until I realized that it hasn't impacted our closeness one bit. He's an extremely healthy and smart little boy. He's the sun in my sky. Don't worry a bit about what others think. Find the right balance for you and your family.

Here's a link that's helped me (and helped me with Aaron) realize how much even a little bit of bfing can do for our babies:
Reasons to be proud!

^^^This. It is about balance. You have to do what make sense for your family.

There is loads of good info here about getting your LO onto a bottle and weaning BFing.
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=178500.0

Yazzie · « **Reply #11 on:** December 17, 2011, 22:10:58 pm »

You have to do what works for you and your family dear , big big hugs

Shiv52 · « **Reply #12 on:** December 17, 2011, 22:38:25 pm »

((hugs))

momtonb&ab · « **Reply #13 on:** December 18, 2011, 01:20:42 am »

I am just going to pop you over to FF where you can get some great advice. There is a lot of emotions around this topic but I think happy mom = happy baby sums it up for you. What is right for yo both is the perfect choice. I hope others wont sway that feeling!!

mickey44 · « **Reply #14 on:** December 18, 2011, 02:00:46 am »

Thank you everyone! I have given two formula bottles so far and after the first one she zonked out for 2.5 hours and then woke and just stared for a good 15 min then started to show some hunger signs so I gave her another bottle and then we did her bath then a small top up and now she is happily sleeping in her crib!

Shiv52 · « **Reply #15 on:** December 18, 2011, 08:25:57 am »

Sounds like you'll have a smooth transition! I've heard keeping cabbage leaves cold in the fridge and putting them in your bra can help your milk dry up and reduce the risk of you become too engorged.

Hope LO had a good night! Enjoy those newborn snuggles xx

Lolly · « **Reply #16 on:** December 18, 2011, 09:00:17 am »

From a BTDT mummy (different reasons but same outcome) - I totally agree a happy mummy = a happy baby, sounds like you have a happy baby today!

Laura

mickey44 · « **Reply #17 on:** December 18, 2011, 14:46:00 pm »

Yes feeling good about my decisions so far. She has her days and nights mixed up right now so we are trying hard to feed every three hours during the day and keep her awake for a little bit.

*Kara* · « **Reply #18 on:** December 18, 2011, 21:29:05 pm »

Don't worry about that day/night thing.. it will be a bit before she gets them sorted - she just needs to eat and grow right now

If you end up in a bit of pain while drying up - hot shower and lots of ibuprofen

~Sara~ · « **Reply #19 on:** December 18, 2011, 22:39:01 pm »

M had days/night mixed up, too. Keep to the 3h feeds + some A time (not much at this age) during the day and quiet/dark/right back down after a feed during the night. It took us a couple of weeks, but she's doing well now.

ENMS · « **Reply #20 on:** December 22, 2011, 14:32:27 pm »

(((HUGS))) Mickey... I agree with all the pp's that happy mommy = happy baby. If you're uncomfortable with it and it doesn't make you feel good, you've tried it and done what you could.

No guilt!

mickey44 · « **Reply #21 on:** December 22, 2011, 15:04:45 pm »

Hey Elise - are things going better with the BF after the snip?

ENMS · « **Reply #22 on:** December 22, 2011, 15:28:33 pm »

Hi Mickey - no, it's actually worse!

He just won't breastfeed anymore ever since we had it done. Not sure if it's because he needs to relearn to use his tongue or he just decided he prefers the bottle. Will keep trying for a little bit and we'll see what happens.

mickey44 · « **Reply #23 on:** December 22, 2011, 19:16:47 pm »

Hugs hun! I hope it gets better!!

*Kara* · « **Reply #24 on:** December 22, 2011, 20:19:43 pm »

Ladies - give it a good try and if doesn't work out, don't feel bad one bit. I swear that there are babies who just don't like the BF - mine included. I tried for 10 days and she just was not into it one bit...

She has grown into a very healthy and happy toddler

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