Honestly, I don't see the big deal once they drink their milk and then have their teeth brushed.
If she brushes her teeth before bed and isn't walking around with milk (or juice, even worse) in it all day long, then what harm can it be doing to her teeth? I'd try brushing teeth before nap as well....
Emma never took a bottle, she was SUPPOSED to give up the dummy at Christmas but due to illness, I couldn't take it from her and the kidney thing then gave way to viral bronchitis so the dummy helped keep the cough at bay while sleeping....thinking we'll give it to the Easter bunny.
I think the bottle issue is more for those kids you see swigging it all day long, with something sweet and sugary inside. Or worse still, for those kids who get ALL of their nutrition through one. Not so long ago, when Oscar was a toddler, we had friends who gave their kids all their meals through a bottle teat - milk and cereal, liqudised soups and meats (!) followed by milk and cereal in the evening. Now that kid has underdeveloped oral muscles, not to mention texture issues.
S x