Her A time is about 3.5 hrs, though the middle of the day (after am nap) is sometimes almost 4 hrs. It kind of depends on what we've done. Today, after am nap, we played, she ate, we visited with neighbor's 10 mos old twins, and we ran to a shop really quick. So, she was yawning her socks off at 3 hrs and 15 minutes and was asleep shortly there after.
She did nurse this time until drowsy and I popped her off and just let her fall asleep without nursing, but on me, and then put her down with no trouble.
I wonder too about her A time not being enough when she fights that much. I get so confused, though, when she's yawning and eye rubbing, but still playing when I try to put her down.
*Sigh* While writing the above, LO woke up. 30 minute wake up, which means she was OT even though her A time wasn't even 3.5 hrs. Couldn't get her back down. Chalking this day up to experimentation! haha
Anyway, yes, LO always stands up in her crib whether or not I'm sitting there. The only time she's sitting is when she's playing by herself after she wakes. She has a small lovey and small blanket (like 10cm x 10cm) in the crib with her. If I put her down drowsy, but awake, she usually can settle herself. I'll keep a hand on her until she's asleep usually, but it has worked in the past.
I'll see how tonight goes. BT will probably be about 7pm.