Hugs sher! It is hard to balance both of their needs at the same time. I has to be frustrating when they need/want different things at the same time. You did have a successful day though, and as you piece it together, you will be able to string more of them together. :-)
Maybe give the bed another week to see? In the meantime watch for a deal on craigslist, so it won't be too spendy, and you could sell it for about the same amt you buy it? Just a thought. I love that ikea bed that we have for ds with the canopy. Do you already have a twin mattress that could go into a twin bed or bunkbed?