Blankie's and dummies needed by DS for slightest upset....

[Truly Blessed]

Hi Everyone,

I hope I have the right board  if not I'm sure I'll be moved appropriately  .

Anyway DS turned 2 in January and is a dummy (paci) and 2 blankies (lovies) addict. His blankie's are a dog, a cow and for some reason he calls his dummy his 'Boo'  so we have 'Woof, Moo and Boo'  Months ago I had weaned them for sleep only but during illness he wanted them all the time and that is the way it has stayed. He doesn't walk around with them constantly but if the slightest thing upsets him he immediately cries 'Woof, Moo and Boo Mammy' Psychologist have said (in my many books) that the blankie is fine, if it helps him get through, then don't worry. But I feel they are all an emotional prop now and I wonder if the fact his speech is getting lazier could be linked to his dummy, although I never allow him to talk with it in his mouth, having said that I know that toddlers can get lazy with their speech and that it's quite common so  . I have tried talking to him and getting him to put them down in a special place during the day but to no avail.

So please tell me: Does anyone have experience of this  Am I unduly worried  DH doesn't think it's a problem and would not be happy if I took them off him in the day to be honest  so I would probably have a battle on my hands from both my men.

Thanks for reading 

Vicki.x.

[Jiinx]

Hi lovely,
I can only speak of my experience. My daughter is turning 3 in July and still needs her lovey. Her speech, I think, has been affected by it - she says her s's as th's and z's as th's. The doctor says not to worry so I'm just hoping she'll outgrow it.

She uses her loveys at night and sometimes during the day. She has her moments when she needs to use the lovey and hugs me. I'm completely fine with it..she uses it to comfort her. They won't use it forever, hun...they'll get busier and be less orally fixated in the future.

[Shiv52]

At that age we kept dummies in bed for sleep times only.  there were times she asked for her dummy when she was upset and we got it and then put it back when she was ok again. 

 

I have tried talking to him and getting him to put them down in a special place during the day but to no avail.

It took about a week of consistency here for it not to be an issue and lots and lots of distraction!

[~Natalie~]

I am going to pop this over to the Toddler board. You will get more age appropriate advice there

[clairebear79]

Hiya hun

Oliver is completely hooked on his lovies too.  His are teddies.  His current favourites are 'Ra Ra' (rabbit) and 'Ted'.  They are usually kept in his cot for sleep times & he sleeps cuddling them, but he often asks to bring them downstairs, and now wants them for cuddles during his bedtime story, and he is asking for them more & more during the day when he's upset,  If he falls & hurts for himself 'Ra Ra' is the first thing that's called for, even before mama! 

The way I see it, its just a comfort thing, and if its what helps him feel better then that's fine.

(x)

[Katet]

When DS1 was getting his last 8 lots of teeth & I was preg/ young baby, I let things slide & let DS1 have them when it worked for me. once all the teeth were through & things were going more smoothly we limited it to his room only... early on he was in his room often & gradually it got less & then less.
Ds2 I let him have his bears (sucked the arms) almost all the time until he was past 3yo & then limited it a bit more... both were completely "comfort item" free by 4.5yo... DS2 who had a bear stuck in his mouth for 50% of the time until 3yo, had funny teeth... self corrected & he was a finalist in District Public speaking - because he has a very good speaking voice!

[Truly Blessed]

Thanks for the move Natalie 

Thank you so much to all of you, it really helps to get a broad perspective. Jiinx I was totally incline to just go with the flow too, it's just that lately his comfort tools seem to be taking over the day and distracting him a great deal from other things YK 

Shiv, I was thinking of doing exactly as you did DD and I'm still thinking  .

Katet, Hurrah for your clever young man 

Claire, oh goody now I can moan about this to you too LOL 

I will keep you posted if I make a move  Thanks again.

[Truly Blessed]

Hi Ladies,

Yesterday in the playpark Sam demanded blankies and dummy for no apparent reason. I explained they were in the car and he got upset and refused to play from then on. If I had given them to him he would have been unsafe walking around climbing with his hands full anyway. So today is day 1 of him having them only for sleep. He is catching on quickly so far and even managed a bump on the head without them for comfort. It is taking a lot of distraction but I'm happy it's in his best interest..oh! and we did the supermarket weekly shop without them too...now I could usually do with them during this hideous event LOL.

Keep you posted  

PS: Implemented time out today for the first time too...I feel a bit head battered.

[ZacsMumme]

Hugs, we are going rough the same thing sweetie re paci and lovey, we are in teething hell! 
So, following along for tips

[Truly Blessed]

Hi Sara 

We are also in molar hell! Which makes this challenge harder. He's doing well so far but has asked for it a bit more today than yesterday..he's not quite himself TBH 

Potty training next week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AAAAAAAAAAAGH.x.

[Katet]

Potty training next week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AAAAAAAAAAAGH.x.

Best advice I got was "3 days" tell him 3 days before that in 3 days you are going to try him in big boy underwear & see if he is ready, do the count down. Then on the day, put him in underwear & tell him to tell you when he needs to go to the toilet... expect the first day to be ALL accidents, & if by day 3 you don't have more than 50% success of him getting to the toilet, try again in a month or 2... worked really well with both my boys & 3 of my friends. Both my boys were telling me they needed to go to the toilet for wees by day 3 & 1 respectively & it took about another month for poos to sort themselves out. By day 4 we could do short trips (where I knew where a toilet was) without nappies.

[Truly Blessed]

Thank you so much for that. I have done stage 1 of sitting on the potty 3 times a day for 5 mins or more and he is good at that LOL, but no action yet. I want to put pants on him so he knows what wet feels like when he has an accident and don't favour him running around bare bummed. I'll keep you posted  

Am I to presume that all poo's were done in pants for a month   did you use nappies for naptime  

(X)

[Lolly]

DD still has her dummy and lovies and DS has his special lovies, both *need* them more at times than others. I try to keep them in their beds but if they are ill or upset they are allowed to get them as they get comfort from them. They aren't allowed out of the house though when we go through a phase of them needing them more!

Good luck with the potty training! You never know he may get the hang of poo quickly, but it's really common for that to take some time. DD has been training for 7 months and we still get most poos in knickers but she's been dry in the day since quite early on and dry at night since before Christmas. We did use pull ups for naps at first but she was dry after the first couple of days. Once I realised she was usually dry I put knickers on under the pull up so I could see if she was wet or dry. DS was better with poo than she has been but he was closer to 3 when we started with him.

Laura

[Truly Blessed]

Hey Laura,

Thanks for that. I think Sam is ready but if not I will leave it a month or so and then try again...not looking forward to this challenge to be honest.

(X)

[Katet]

Hey Laura,

Thanks for that. I think Sam is ready but if not I will leave it a month or so and then try again...not looking forward to this challenge to be honest.

(X)

I put it off with DS1 because I thought it would be a challenge... in the end I have to say getting my children out of nappies was only stressful once & that was because DS2 got himself stressed because he wanted to "poo on the toilet like everyone else" & it wasn't working for him... he was in tears & I was just trying to be calm... 2 days later he worked it out, but otherwise apart from the 'joy' of scraping poo out of underwear I can say helping children tie shoe laces is much much harder in this household.