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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #30 on: March 29, 2012, 13:34:36 pm »
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #31 on: March 29, 2012, 14:37:09 pm »
Passing along some more *hugs* for you today :-*

I remember when my supply tanked with Aaron and struggling to get it back up so that he could have a full meal and stop crying...and, well, it is a very emotional decision to stop nursing.  When you have to make the decision so abruptly, it is even harder.  Can I just tell you (maybe I've said it a million times and you're like ::)) that you will still have that bond with Anna.  Your DH is a smart man: Anna feeling like her needs are being met gives her comfort, security, and stability.  Her world still feels safe, and of course it will because at the end of the day, you LOVE her.

Absolutely allow yourself to grieve.  It's a bittersweet moment.  But please be gentle with yourself and remember that ff/bottle fed babies love their mommies to the moon and back, too.  Let Nathan be your reminder :)
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #32 on: March 29, 2012, 14:59:43 pm »
Quote from: ~Sara~ on March 29, 2012, 14:37:09 pm
Can I just tell you (maybe I've said it a million times and you're like ::)) that you will still have that bond with Anna.  Your DH is a smart man: Anna feeling like her needs are being met gives her comfort, security, and stability.  Her world still feels safe, and of course it will because at the end of the day, you LOVE her.

Absolutely allow yourself to grieve.  It's a bittersweet moment.  But please be gentle with yourself and remember that ff/bottle fed babies love their mommies to the moon and back, too.  Let Nathan be your reminder :)

^^^^^^^^^^^^^this!^^^^^^^^^^^^^

And I wanted to echo this:
Quote from: *Liz* on March 29, 2012, 11:41:10 am
I still give Megan bottles at going on 2. I could easily stop, but I still love to snuggle and cuddle and have that special bonding time. They call it bottle nursing, and IMO it is still pretty lovely  ;) :) :-* :-*

I do this too. Never knew it was called that and what a perfect name for it :) When I transitioned E to bottles, she started shoving her hand in my shirt and to this day she pulls the neck of my shirt so she can get some skin to skin cuddle time especially when I rock her to sleep. You CAN have that bond still.

And yes your dh is a very smart and intuitive man :)
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #33 on: March 29, 2012, 18:39:38 pm »
adding more hugs for today.
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #34 on: March 29, 2012, 20:35:22 pm »
Awwww big hugs Amy,

You have done an amazing job nursing her for as long as you have. I know it wasn't a smooth road for you but it is such a testament to your commitment, perseverance and love for Anna that you carried on. Your DH sounds like a very wise and supportive man, keep listening to him! FWIW when I stopped at 15 months I mourned it too. It is such an emotional thing and I think that whenever you stop it is sad.....I am also more than slightly jealous of the perks of bottle feeding, wine, wine and more wine!
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #35 on: March 29, 2012, 20:55:30 pm »
I am feeling more centered about it this afternoon... not too much has really changed when you get down to it. :) She is still my Anna. I wore her in the wrap for our walk after lunch and she was just so pleased to be there, as usual. She played peek-a-boo with me with her hat, and patted my face/neck a lot. Just like she always does. She is happy and she still loves me. :)

I remember having a hard time when I stopped nursing Nathan, too. We made it a bit further than this time, but Anna has met every milestone in her little life at least a month sooner than her brother did so I guess this is no different. ::)

Thanks for the support girls.  :-* We are going to be ok.
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #36 on: March 29, 2012, 21:01:52 pm »
Amy, I am SURE she loves you...  And I am sure she will be very proud of you in the future.
It's hard to be rational when we're just emotional about what's going on, but think that Anna never meant to bite you on purpose and she doesn't 'prefer' the bottle to 'punish' you or because she doesn't like you.
Enjoy your LOs! I hope you feel better soon!  :-*
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #37 on: March 30, 2012, 03:36:47 am »
Sounds lovely, Amy! You are a star and she is following in your footsteps.  :) :-* :-*
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #38 on: March 30, 2012, 04:57:14 am »
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #39 on: April 02, 2012, 01:36:15 am »
How are you feeling, Amy? I hope you're feeling better. Adding up more hugs!
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #40 on: April 02, 2012, 02:59:21 am »
Thinking of you
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #41 on: April 02, 2012, 03:16:06 am »
(((hugs)))
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #42 on: April 02, 2012, 03:48:31 am »
Also thinking of you, Amy.  :-* :-*
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #43 on: April 02, 2012, 14:32:42 pm »
Aww, thanks girls. :-* Things are going ok. I was worried about plugged ducts/mastitis developing because my BBs were really full and sore the day after I quit, so I hand expressed a few oz and then thought, hey, why not keep doing that as long as I can! So she is getting what milk I can get out by hand (I tried pumping again; it just does.not.work. for me) and formula to make up the difference. I don't know how long I can keep expressing without nursing before my supply dries up, but we'll see!

Two days after I stopped nursing full time, my AF arrived. Hard core. I guess my body was just waiting for the sign to start in earnest. ::) I had been spotting for days at a time every week or so since my lochia stopped, so I knew that things were ready to go.

It is still hard; I miss nursing. I had to pack the diaper bag for church yesterday and took out my fancy little hooter hider because I won't be needing it anymore, and I started to cry. Packed up all of my nursing bras and nursing pads this morning and cried again. But it'll be ok. Eventually! :)
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Re: Shedding a tear
« Reply #44 on: April 02, 2012, 14:48:00 pm »
Another nice strong cup pf coffee for u, hugs xx
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