The dreaded 1-0.. Long

[babybarr]

Well you can only do what you can do.  I would do 8.30pm bed yes.  ((((hugs)))) hun

[koe2moe]

Thanks, Laura!  I am so stressed out!  DS finally fell asleep at 9:20.   I still have such sleep phobia

[babybarr]

I still have such sleep phobia

I'm completely passed that stage... it's a nightmare I just get  on with it!!!!

Who has him tomorrow?  Just make sure you enforce maximum nap time if he absolutely has to have one of 30mins.

[koe2moe]

He is at daycare but DH brought him, forgot to send instructions with him!  I will have to call them.  they might refuse to keep it at 30mins as i brought it up before. 

DS woke at 6 and got him to sleep till 7:30.  10h night, not great but not too bad.  I wonder what woke him, the white noise was back on the last three nights.  He couldnt possibly hear the heating coming on but it always seems to correspond to the time heating starts!  I might turn it completely off tonight just as an experiment!  . I cant think or focus at all

I want to just get on with it.  It is so frustration that DH is doing all the wrong things at the wrong time.  About the time we needed to go upstairs, he announced that he was thinking of having yoghurt!  That is one thing DS will eat non stop any day!  It is always things like this that i have no control of and it is so easy to avoid if he even tries to think!  I dont want to complain too much as he is working extra hard right now to catch up for the sick period.  I need to get stuff done, too but i just cant function . Sorry for the rant...

[babybarr]

Rant away!!  They just don't think do they?!!

10hr night is about what you got before with a nap yes?  Just tell daycare he's not settling till really late and waking a lot in the night cos of the nap.  At the end of the day you pay them so they should at least try anddo as you have asked.  Good luck!

[koe2moe]

They are good, they are the ones who offer to do it when they keep hearing us talk about the late bt.  DH told me the story about yesterday.  DS was just so tired after lunch, which was around 12, so they asked him if he wanted one, he actually said YES!!  They would do the same and i guess, i have given DH enough grief that he wont dare to open his mouth without thinking!  . He was thinking out loud, though, so...  I want to stay cool like you and just get on with it. 

DS did turn out to want even a whole banana after the yoghurt!  Two huge BMs also....  So couldnt really blame entirely on DH but why not?  Lol.

[babybarr]

How has today been?  DH's are best to blame for *everything*!

[koe2moe]

. I made the silly mistake to let DH do bt as i really need one night sleep.  DS seems to only want the one who puts him to bed in the night!  It is taking them forever and i still hear DS scream "noooooooo!".

He fell asleep in the car for 10-15 mins.  He seems to be too awake already, tossing and turning!  It will be nightmare tonight!  .

[babybarr]

He seems to be too awake already, tossing and turning!  It will be nightmare tonight!

I would absolutely have to get O to bed asap if this happens.  No messing no nothing just bed!  He may surprise you... it *has* to happen at some point soon!

[koe2moe]

I know.  That is what i would do and even letting him have his way, two, three stories, etc.  DH normally is the pushover, i dont know what is causing this.  Somehow DH was insisting that DS went under the blanket but sometimes DS is too warm at this time.  Arghhhhh. I hate this, i hate that i have no control of it. Oh btw, DS has been in bed since 7:30!  The past nights, except last night due to the hour long nap, DS would just close his eyes, held my finger for an minute and drifted off!  See?  I still stuff it by asking DH to do it this evening!  I feel my stress hormones surging. 

[babybarr]

Where are you located??  I can't remember!

It is so hard to let go (ssshhhh I still haven't) I have only ever not put O to bed once.  TBH I find it such a special time of day I want to do it, although I'd quite happily let DH do dinner and shower!

Perhaps you could have a quick quiet word with DH and try leaving DS for a bit and see if he'll settle?

[koe2moe]

We are in amsterdam.  Wanna visit?  . We used to always do it together, except when we absolutely couldnt.  Then we moved houses and We all finally have our own rooms and we started taking turns to do it.  DS used to prefer DH perhaps because Ds knows he is a pushover or i was too strict.  I have to confess that i threatened him at bt.  i have tried very hard to be patient and Ds seems to have warmed up to me and the last two months or so, he started wanting me at night instead of DH sometimes.  It is very nice for me but in order to get him to stop monkeying around, i still have to tell him if he is not going to lay down to sleep, then mommy will leave to do my work. 

DS hasnt been independently going to sleep since DH got very sick in Jan, and all the dramas have been affecting DS.  We decided to try and help him.  The UT to sleep with the nap wasnt helping.  I was really hoping that once the no nap thing has settled, we can sleep train with GW.  I am currently having muscle ache all over due to stress.  It is so sore that i am really struggling. 

I hate that i have absolutely no energy during the day and struggle with everything i hvae to do.  At least i am not sick like before. 

Can a 10min CN cause that much grief??  We couldnt transfer him to bed, either.  Sleep and the thought about it consumes me . Sorry for the rant again.  You have way more on your plate!!  Hugs

[Tweakster]

(((hugs hon)))  I do think the nap is doing you in.  You might just have to let it go.  Really.

I hear you on the stress.  I think my shoulders are attached to my ear lobes permanently now.  I wish I could just relax and forget about sleep but these kids do often make it impossible.  They are not all just those kinds of kids who sleep when they need to.  Our kids need a very firm hand telling them how and when to sleep!

To be honest, I lie beside Finn until his star mobile shuts off (plays Twinkle Twinkle) - it's almost like a little prop but it's our special time.  I think at this age they kind of need it. 

Are you and DH both better now?

[koe2moe]

We are overall better, thanks for asking.  We are still very exhausted probably from recovering!  Or the emotions and everything else.  My stress is so high that i started having this weird muscle pain all over me.  As you know i treat by NAET but this is stress related, not food allergies.  I have never experienced this kind of stiffness and pain continuously. 

I had a good week last week and thought that i could handle this 1-0.  I didnt plan on the nap but couldnt keep him awake.  He was really so tired that he had an accident at daycare around 5.  All clothes wet, not sure how but all shirts and pants! 

Our weekend starts tomorrow, so we dont have any dates planned, so perhaps we will do no nap and on time to bed for three days straight.  Need to discuss with Dh who has gone to bed already, preparing for the rough night hehe.  I should go to bed, too. 

How do you plan your weekend to keep F entertained but not fall asleep?  DS would fall asleep even in the buggy at the end of a fun day.  I might have to plan strategic things or do tonnes of tv again which i hate.  .

[Tweakster]

Well we just stay away from the car as it's the only time he would ever fall asleep.  Although there was once he fell asleep in the buggy at a the end of a zoo trip.  I think you have to be strategic and ensure that you are home around 4:30/5 when the day should be closing down.  It sucks because we used to get a lot of stuff done in that hour but now we're up earlier again anyway lol  So see it all comes back around lol

I know what you mean about the TV etc. but it's just a phase...short-lived until little Koe copes with no nap.  And it has been about 4 weeks and Finn has had maybe 2 naps in that time...and I am doubtful that he will fall asleep now at nap time.  I think his body is adjusting.