Approaching the final 1-0 hurdle. How did you deal with it?

[*Ali*]

I know it is too late now but i would have put him to bed earlier tonight because he had a short and disturbed night last night and then a short, early nap today. So I wouldn't have let his day go over 12hrs and would have put him down at 6pm. Just for future reference. If I only want a 30 min nap I do APOP it because he is easier to wake in the car or on the sofa.

[Truly Blessed]

Thanks Ali, that would always have been my 1st thought but because of all the UT at BT and the 40 minute nap I didn't dare, but if you read my posts today you would have seen that I suspected that he was in the sleep window at 5.30..poo! cocked up again.

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[Khalam's Mama]

i would also have done 6pm latest.   FX for a good night.

[Truly Blessed]

Asleep last night 7.50 PM

NW at midnight. Stood at gate and literally just yelled noise as loud as he could  . Tried WI/WO continued yelling and crying, he was totally wired. DH sat with him for ages, then I had to take him to the loo (Sam that is) then DH back in and finally got out leaving his and our door wide open, asleep after 1 hour awake.

WU this morning 6 am. Just over  9 hours sleep. I even lay down on the toddler bed with him but Sam isn't used to any co-sleeping so he jumped up and said 'Are you okay Mammy?' I said 'Mammy's tired' he said 'Sam not tired, me rub Mammy's back and kiss it better'  Switched with him but no go, up at 6.45.

He is constantly rubbing his eyes and yawning and I am at a TOTAL loss what to do today. Don't think I've ever been this clueless since before I discovered BW  . I know lots of things to try but no clue what is best. What I want to do is give him a nice long early nap AND  go for EBT, but I guess that's a terrible idea eh 

Help! Please!

Do I push him through a no nap day with SEBT so that he passes out with exhaustion (hopefully) but then I'm sure he will NW and EW that way.

I'm so shattered myself 

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[Kay Dee]

Oh no! Sorry you had a bad night. Do you have a sleep diary? Which nights have been good recently? Maybe if you write it down you'll see a pattern.

A long early nap is an option but it wouldn't have worked for us. A short catnap later in the day worked best. Literally just enough to get him to bedtime. Any kind of restorative nap messed us up big time 

I like Clare's plan of sticking with a 30min nap. Then you might be able to get him to bed early. I would worry that a longer nap will lead to another long day. What do you think?

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[Truly Blessed]

Thank you Hun, although I hate to say it I am inclined to agree. I think I will go with an APOP car nap at 2.30 to 3.00 and 6 PM BT..does that sound good to you  I reckon I'll take him out to the park so when we get in the car the fresh air sparks him out, maybe some air before BT would be a good idea too 

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[koe2moe]

Hugs!  Stick with your plan to see what happens and lots of vibes!  I want to share one tip that DH is very good at when you seem to have missed the window or something between UT/OT.  Not sure if it would suit your bt routine, but it worked well for us.

DH would go with the flow a bit, unlike me clock watching.  Our bt routine involves bt stories at the very end before DS going into bed.  DH would just take his time and if DS asks for more stories, DH would comply and at some point, DS would suddenly calm way down, yawn and rub eyes or even turn his face to lay on DH's chest and then he would be very willing to go to bed.  Just that little bit of time together beats the screaming and calling back.  FX for tonight!

[Truly Blessed]

I want to share one tip that DH is very good at when you seem to have missed the window or something between UT/OT.  Not sure if it would suit your bt routine, but it worked well for us.

I'm sorry Hun, I don't understand  and I really need all the tips I can get  .

If Sam would fall asleep on the sofa when tired I would so tempted to 'go with the flow' it worked for my friend's DS same age as Sam who would fall alseep on the sofa when tired or in the car and wake himself then sleep 12 hours through..if only 

Thanks Hun.x.

[koe2moe]

DH would go with the flow a bit, unlike me clock watching.  Our bt routine involves bt stories at the very end before DS going into bed.  DH would just take his time and if DS asks for more stories, DH would comply and at some point, DS would suddenly calm way down, yawn and rub eyes or even turn his face to lay on DH's chest and then he would be very willing to go to bed.  Just that little bit of time together beats the screaming and calling back.  FX for tonight!

sorry about my english, the above was the tip i wanted to share  

[*Becky*]

yes I would do a car nap...we had no choice with H as he just would not nap in his bed so I totally get not wanting to wake him after 30 mins....

[Truly Blessed]

Thanks Koe, makes perfect sense. Sticking with the 2.30 car nap plan.x.

[Truly Blessed]

He's currently lying on the sofa tucked up in a blanket. If he falls asleep so be it, but if not I'm figuring any quiet time will help him make it to BT. He's shattered.. I've cancelled our gig with DH on Thursday because of this. My Mam is on holiday and usually he sleeps at her house but my Auntie was doing this week at our house. With him like this there is no way I can go to work because if he has a NW while we're out I know he will be incredibly upset when he's this tired if we're not here. He knows my Auntie but I would not even want to put her through it, so bang goes the money this week 

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[*Becky*]

oh vicki - hugs hun. These kids eh!?

Hope today goes ok xx

[Truly Blessed]

So shot for a 2.30 to 3.00 cat nap, which I know is radical but it seems to me all the rules are upside down with the 1-0 TBH. So he refused it! BT was 6pm by the time he was calm enough and I wanted to make sure WD was long enough to give me my best shot. He asked ' Mammy rub my back please' so I did and he was asleep within a minute, then I left.

A 12 hour day following a 9 hour night siiigh...but it seems to me to prove that UT is our biggest enemy at BT which is what I suspected. A lesson learned at least.

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[Khalam's Mama]

Sounds like a rough day. If he doesn't nap I would stick with 6pm bt at the latest. This is why I went with no nap days over late short naps because bt was not such an unpleasant struggle.