Thank you for the hugs, support and suggestions!
I do generally let him 'help' when I cook, he gets big pan, a wooden spoon and I let him have the peelings to 'cook'
Or I let him 'wash up' but then I have t completely change him and mop up the floor! But this day he wasn't interested in that, he wanted to be in my arms and over the cooker and wouldn't be distracted from this. But I have realised that he been super hungry these last few days and the tantrums were happening at lunchtime, so I've been giving him his lunch 15mins earlier and its really helped! I think it was a hungry/tired thing. Plus this week he's been able to go to the childminder and have his regular playdates because last week he had conjunctivitis so I couldn't do much with him. Him being ill probably wasn't helping either.
I took him to the park and all he wanted to do was put sticks in the bin! I wouldn't have minded except I had to lift him up for him to do it! Its like being with someone with OCD sometimes! Eventually we had to leave because of the call of nature, and he protested loudly most of the way home! Sometimes he gets really locked in to a task which can be great but also if we have to take him away from it, it results in a major meldown. I'm trying really hard to come up with new activities, the activity threads are really helpful, i think things are much improved by the fact he's out of the 'putting everything in his mouth' phase
so he can play with my buttons (closely supervised of course) and I let him play with pennies. But everything I come up with bores him within a few days and I have to think of more stuff. I've not got much of and imagination at the best of times!
I've always struggled to keep this boy stimulated. I'm ashamed to say that when I'm really tired I do resort to dvds, which he loves and absorb him like nothing else!
Writing it down is a great idea, Roimata, I will do that, if only to prove to myself its not just me boring him, but maybe it is!! Sometimes its hard to think when he's tugging and moaning and squawking!
Next week is half term so my childminder can't take him as her little boy is home, also my regular play date swapses mum is away too, so I'm trying to make a plan for every day to keep the grumpies at bay! I'm a bit apprehensive, but at least he's not ill (touch wood) which should help!