Kirsten,
Thank you so much for replying! I am so glad and relieved to hear someone with a spirited baby who has the same issue with A time. I have been searching these boards for two weeks trying to find someone who had this issue. I find also, that even with a short nap in the afternoon, mine still needs almost a full A time following to go down at bedtime without fighting. And he is exactly the same, he will scream and stand up in his crib and bounce if he is not tired enough, and as soon as I turn the light back on, he will calm down. In fact, I had this issue tonight. My baby woke all night last night, so I was concerned about OT today, and he only napped one hour this morning. When I put him down for afternoon nap, he slept for 2 hours and then I actually woke him at 4, which was two hours, so he could have time to get sleepy before bed. I planned on putting him to bed at 7:30, which would be our 3.5 hour A time, but he just wasn't even acting tired in the least. I tried but he screamed. It ended up being 8:10pm before I could get him to settle. I had to try about 3 times before he was ready. That was just over a 4 hour A time. So now I know never to allow that long of a nap of an afternoon. Normally I would never do that, but I was trying to catch him up on sleep from what I thought was a night if NW because of OT. Many times my gut says it is UT, but all you really hear so much of the time is NW being due to OT. I think I have perpetuated the problem many times being convinced it had to be OT when really it is UT. It's hard for people to believe sometimes that his A time is so high I think...
So your baby will go down for his second nap with only a 3 hour A time after a two hour nap in the morning? And then he goes down ok with 3 hours after a 45 min nap. I guess you could cap your morning nap at 1.5 hours and then 45 in the afternoon, which would put you at 7:30, but that may not be enough day sleep for your baby.
Yes, I have wondered if mine was getting too much day sleep. We just recently bumped up to the 3 H 30 min when he started NW again and that put him at about 2.5-3 hours of day sleep, so I don't think that is too much.
We have been trying this EASY:
W - 7
S - 10:30-12:00 ( Iwould try for 2 hour nap here, but he started waking at 40 min UT)
A- 12- 3:30
S - 3:30-4:30 (capped this nap)
B - 8
NW's improved greatly for a few days and then he started NW again. I tried putting to bed a couple of times at 7:30, he fought me like he was UT, and he was up all night on those nights. So I am almost positive he still needs the longer A time to bed. Many nights, the waking is just excessive...like every hour or more. And I just don't understand how even OT or UT could cause that excessive waking. Sometimes he is crying out of frustration, but acting like he is not very tired, so I think UT. He gets so frustrated if I'm trying to make him sleep and he is not tired, hence the crying I think. Sometimes he is just very restless. He is teething with his first tooth since last week and it has yet to come in. I can barely feel it. But he has been waking like this long before this tooth coming in and I have been medicating him at night but doesn't help with the waking.
I am just stumped on what to do. I know his NW's drastically improve with the increase in A time. Every time they get better...so I think he is UT. But then I just can't seemed to find a balanced routine to keep him in consistent sleep. He seems extremely sensitive to everything!!!