Hello again! Sounds like you both need (((hugs))) - I can completely relate to that experience of getting a few good days/nights and then a few months of chaos
Claire - as always, your wise words completely tally with our experience... so when you relate your current struggles I just know this will be us before too long! M won't go down UT any more either - although interestingly, he will sometimes go straight to sleep when OT, only to have ENWs and/or EWs. Did you try a 1.25h nap for very long? Or did you find the nights were still too short? I wonder whether he's good with a 1h nap most of the time and just needs a 1.25h nap to catch up occasionally, rather than jumping to 1.5h?? Or will he do a slightly EBT after a few days of 1h naps if he needs to catch up a bit?
Stardust - good on you for being able to be so firm with visitors! I've never managed that, and it certainly affects M too. It's so hard feeling tied to home for naps, isn't it? But I'm sure this really is just a passing phase - she will eventually be able to stay up for longer in the morning and you'll be free again. Are you able to go out even earlier, or are things just not running at that time? Even just to a park or something, just to get out for a bit? Of course when the weather's better - how is it now? The big theme running through the 18mo regression seems to be a big decrease in sleep needs overall, but working out how to manage that doesn't seem so straightforward, and I guess all LOs will handle it a bit differently. As you say, it seems that everything has to be 'perfect' otherwise her sleep goes all wonky and takes a while to get back again - but from your previous posts, forgive me if I'm wrong, it also seems that she does get back into a nice routine again after a few days... so there's always hope
Also are you absolutely sure it's all routine-related? I mean it sounds like she was doing fine for a few days before flipping? Could she be teething or anything like that? Canines have played havoc with M's sleep - and only two have actually cut so far!
As for us, I think we're here at the moment:
7am Up (sometimes I wake him, sometimes he wakes a little earlier)
1-2:30pm Nap (goes down easily, sometimes I wake him, sometimes he wakes)
8pm BT (only just pushed back from 7:45pm but he was beginning to seem UT at BT and taking longer to get to sleep)
However we did have a wedding to travel to over the weekend which meant I had to wake him at 6:30am to leave at 7am, encourage him to have an extra early lunch and nap in the car around 11:30 (!!) and he woke when we arrived at 12:50 for a 1:30pm wedding (well with such a long journey I had to leave plenty of time!). I'd been really worried about this as we don't have a car (hired one) so he's not used to sleeping in one, but I think the air conditioning which I'd cranked up high to keep me awake (!) actually helped him to zone out
But of course it was a huge change in routine for him, but he coped incredibly well for one who normally goes crazy (hyper) with any change. We did leave early (before dessert
) because I knew he'd be really tired and didn't want him to completely flip and not sleep, especially since we were all sharing a hotel room. It was still just after 8pm by the time we said night night (and took the monitor to a nearby sofa to wait!) and it did take him a good 20-30mins to settle, but I was still impressed, I thought he'd be much worse. Anyway, he was obviously pretty tired after that, and with a shorter nap in the car the next day (tried to keep the routine as normal as possible), everything did go a bit wonky, but he went off to the childminder as usual on the Monday and did really well. I was so surprised as I thought he'd be awful! But then we had the shock of our lives (ok exaggeration!) the next morning as DH had accidentally set his alarm for 7:50am (his work is a 30min cycle away and starts at 8am - oops!) - now this wouldn't usually be a big problem as M would usually wakes a little before 7am, and I'm not good at sleeping in anyway, but amazingly, we were ALL still asleep when it went off!!! So I guess we were all just catching up from the weekend, and then of course we were all thrown off and neither M or I managed to drop off at our usual respective bedtimes! Oh well, I guess that's what happens when we have to make big routine changes, I wonder how long before we're back to some sort of 'normal'...