(((hugs))) Melissa. Is it really so bad though if she is pulling long nights
What sort of nights is she doing now? Is she struggling with OT/moody/clingy
If she is happy & well rested I really don't think there is much you can do, she is telling you she doesn't need to nap every day anymore. A friend IRL with a DD same age is also doing same - she has never imposed a structured 'routine' on her & her dd has always napped whenever she wanted for as long as she wanted. Some days she has a 2hr sleep, other days she doesn't nap. Mostly I think she refuses naps at home but will nap in the car/pushchair while out & about. She is however sleeping 13-14hrs at night, so my friend is just going with it.
Things are ok here atm. We are doing same as Trimbler:
Up: 7am
Nap: 1-2.30
Bed: 8pm
It seems to be going ok although sometimes he's not quite ready to settle at 1pm.
Ooh one thing I did mean to ask is what time are you trying to put her down for a nap? Did you try a longer A time? I think if you attempt to PD after any less than 6hrs, esp after a long night, you are likely to just get refusal. I know thats what would happen here. x