well im happy to report a success tonight!!! I let Caleb serve himself with his own little tongs, he put two chicken patties on his plate and 2 pieces of Kumara! then he ate them all!!! even though the Kumara had gone a little cold and he screwed up his face while eating it he still at the rest of it, then he asked for more!! he picked two more chicken patties (they are about the size of the palm of my hand) and ate them. When I had asked him at the beginning of the meal if he had wanted any he had looked at them and said no, yucky. but when I suggested he pick his own he was more than happy!!
this is the most hes eaten at a dinnertime meal in so long. Im gonna try it again!!!