Have I really screwed things up?
So, after in bed asleep and finally asleep at 740, she woke at 940. I was a really loud mantra type cry, but I was afraid it would escalate, so I went in and pinky-ed her. She was asleep again at 950.
I watched her fuss and roll over a few times throughout the night (and silly me, stayed up until almost 1am, cleaning as we are having overnight house guests again).
At 330, she woke, and I let her fuss for 5 minutes. At 335, I went in and let her suck my pinky. Wasn't really upset, just awake, and would stop sucking for a minute or so, then suck hard again. Stood up a few times, and I laid her back down with a "it's time to go to sleep." And she'd suck hard again for a few minutes. This lasted until 430, when I nursed her as I was afraid she was hungry. Before bed, I had tried to give her a bottle instead of nursing as I didn't want to let her fall asleep at the breast, but she really only had 10ml or so. At 440, she wasn't actively feeding anymore, just had my nipple in my mouth and more comfort sucking, so I took her off, and put her back in crib. Pinky for 10 minutes, and she spit out my pinky, turned over and has been asleep ever since. It's 815, and she's still asleep. I even vacuumed downstairs at 745, as I wasn't sure what time our guests are arriving.
Questions:
Should I have waited at 940? She was fussing for a few minutes and I wasn't sure if she'd settle, but she did at other times later in the evening, although, those times, she cried out just once or twice, or rolled around for less than 30 seconds.
Did I really mess things up by feeding at 430? I was quite tired, and I thought it had been a long time since she had anything substantial to eat. She had dinner at 600pm... that's when I should have been getting her ready for bed though
As I was sitting in there at 4am, I was thinking about how I can help her to self soothe. Pantley's Gentle Removal sounds good, and I will try to teach her to put her fingers or thumb in her mouth during the day. Maybe she'll suck them at night?
And when I lay her down to sleep/nap, I won't give her my pinky for at least the first 10 minutes or so of the settling? Even if she cries out loud? If I let her have it later, will this just teach her to stay awake until she can have it? Do I just decide one day that she gets no pinky ever again?
How long should I budget for her to be in the crib before she falls asleep if she's going to do it on her own, based on her track record... It's taken almost an hour to settle at night, but I guess that's because she's OT For naps that have been time right, it seems to be much shorter? Except that I am still giving her pinky...
And it's 830 now, and she's still asleep... should I be waking her?!? I'm assuming the 430 feed means that she's not hungry and waking out of hunger. Now I just need to make sure she gets a good nursing right before bed to prevent that 330, up for an hour hunger, right?