Thank you all for your suggestions! I WAS really stressed, but then I calmed down a bit. When I realized I wasn't producing enough (dry diapers and constipation) I freaked out because I had a similar experience with DS.
He had just started sttn, when I noticed a supply drop. He started nursing every 2 hrs and waking at night again. After a few weeks I found out I was pregnant. there were only a limited amount of supplements I could try due to the pregnancy, but I had really wanted to nurse at least a year, and here it was at 10 months and he was starving, and he wouldn't take formula. He had a mild case of MPI so he had to have the really nasty tasting stuff. Finally after after a month of nursing around the clock, he took the formula because I was completely dried up. I stopped bfing that day. So I was really sad, and relieved at that point. It was really stressful nursing that often and knowing her wasn't getting enough, and I was sad that nothing I did worked, but relieved that he wouldn't be hungry anymore. He went back to sttn and was much happier.
So I started supplimenting with formula about a week and a half ago. I started with 4 oz a feed, and for the first time ever, so only woke once at night very briefly and went right back to sleep. A few days later, I dropped to 2 oz and tried nursing before and after naps. She started waking again 3-4 times a night. So I upped it to 4 oz, and do you know she sttn for the first time ever! Clearly not a coincidence.
But now she has a terrible diaper rash- I've found online called an allergy ring. Something she is eating is bothering her. The formula is the first dairy she's had, and I also tried yogurt this week. Her formula also has soy in it. So now I am back to stressing again.
My plan is to try nursing before and after naps for a week and if that doesn't help, then I'll talk to my doc about the meds. I'd love to do a nursing vacation- in fact, I'd love ANY kind of vacation but it just isn't feasible with a two yr old DS who doesn't even nap most days. I have read the Kelly Mom site, and I even own a really good book called Mother Food that outlines foods and supplements taken around the world to increase milk supply. I can't take Brewer's yeast because I'm allergic. I haven't tried malt yet, and there are a few herbs I haven't tried yet either.
I will pm Kate about the meds.
Thank you all so much for your support! It really means a lot to me!