We have three issues with our DD at the dinner table at the moment and I'm not sure how to handle them.
First is removing her bib before she's finished, it's not just that she'll get mucky but she looks as though she's strangling herself! She literally just pulls and yanks on it till the velcro comes apart. She's almost impossible to distract once she's got her hands on it and if we try to stop her grabbing it in the first place, she bats our hands away and starts screaming.
Second is that she's figured out she can put her feet up and push the highchair away from the table, it's a Stokke Tripp Trapp so doesn't have it's own tray and she needs to be right up to the table to eat. Again when put her legs down and pull her back in or try to stop her in the first place, cue screaming fit!
The last is washing her hands and face after the meal, she gets so worked up, huge fat tears are falling, she's drooling from the mouth and often ends up coughing. Distraction can work a little on the first hand but then she loses it and ends up in proper meltdown when we start on her face. We've tried talking calmly 'I know you don't like it but we need to get your hands clean' etc, we've tried singing, making a game of it, trying to get her to wash them herself, it all ends up the same way.
She's a great eater, we did baby led weaning from six months and she's very independent. It just seems every mealtime is turning into a battle and DD is getting so upset, we're constantly saying no don't take your bib off or no don't push away from the table, put your feet down etc then ending with the face washing meltdown.
I'd love mealtimes to be a more pleasurable experience for all of us but not sure how to tackle these problems, any ideas please?