So I am here to ask for help for my nephew. He is 2 1/2 yo and has never been a good eater, but at least had one 'decent' meal/day.
My MIL is concerned because my SIL is not that rigid about what her little boy eats during the day - provided that he has at least one meal per day and has plenty of milk, he's fine. Plus, he is growing up and weighting normally, so she definitely thinks there is no reason to put pressure on him.
It turns out that due to MIL's concern and taking into account that when the kids are together (they live in another city, about 100 km far away, so they only meet each other during the weekends), it's inevitable to compare their behavior.
DD1 (and so has DD2) has always had a routine, with time to eat and play. Not that I'm super rigid, sometimes especially when at MIL's, I end up feeding DD1 wherever she is. But she has a decent meal and she understands that she can't have dessert (fruit or treat) if she doesn't eat properly.
When my nephew is around, I try to feed them both, as I know this will make MIL happier.
It seems to me that the boy is jealous about his little sister (2 mo) as his mother only has eyes for the baby. But I am not sure if this is true, as my BIL said to me that whenever he's at home (she is SAHM), he tries to do whatever it takes to the boy to eat properly.
What do you think? BIL asked me to ask for help so here I am.
To me, this will only work when they set a proper routine for the kid. Any ideas? Has anyone been there?