Should I cap the nap?

[Feefeena]

Hi there

My 16.5 month old son is in his fourth week of 2-1 nap transition and most days has done 1 nap with odd day here and there doing short am and long pm when we've had v EWU.

He's been lengthening the nap this week but we've noticed his nights are shortening. Should we cap the nap? I'm just worried about OT at the moment but not sure what best thing to do us for him and us. We would def prefer longer night so we've slowly reduced nap down to 2 hours 15 mins. If we let him, I think he'd do 3 hours but we can pretty much guarantee a 10 hour night on that.

Any advice? TIA

[*Becky*]

if you have noticed a shorter night on a long nap then yes cap it. Can you post his day atm on 1 nap so I can take a look. xx

[Feefeena]

Hiya

Thanks Becky. Well we had a 2 hour waking last night from 4.25-6.25am. He finally went to sleep and stayed asleep till 8.15 today.  I let him have the lie in cuz it was only a 9 hour night up until that point.

He's generally been good apart from some NW and EW due to teething.
Yesterday we had the following:

WU 6.45

Nap 11.20-1.35

In bed 7-asleep 7.20

He needs longer A time after nap as cant seem to cope as well on long A time in the mornings. I find trying to put him to bed any later than 11.45 in the morning always leads to shorter length naps.

[*Becky*]

routine looks pretty good to me tbh...how was he at the EW? Crying? Restless?
Is he over the teeth now?

[Feefeena]

He wasn't crying at all. Just chatting to himself for ages!

We only got a 1.25 hr nap today as it had to be at 12.30ish as he woke so late this morning. He was asleep at 12.35ish and woke again at 1.50pm. He was pretty moody after that and has been moany/whiny all afternoon. Teething still seems to be going on! Does it ever stop-aaargh!

Anyway-stuck to in bed by 7pm and he was asleep by 7.25ish. I'm praying for no silly WU times tomorrow.

Thank you for all your help and advice-I do so appreciate it. It's so hard to know whether you're doing things right...are they OT/UT/teething/eating enough/getting enough A time etc etc etc. drives me potty!

Xxx

[Feefeena]

We had same thing as yesterday. LO woke at 4.25-didn't go back to sleep till about 6.05. What could this be? OT/UT or just the bloody teething? Again no crying just chatting.

[*Becky*]

yk what...we have had it the last 3 nights too. Not awake for as long but chatting in the night and for us it started on a 1 hour nap day as we were travelling..

I think it is probably not UT if he did it last night on a much shorter nap. It could be teeth for sure. M does weird NWings with teeth, she is not always crying. It could also be developmental. Do you know if he is in a WW. I am off to check that out!

It might be worth trying a df meds around 3am to see if it helps....

[Feefeena]

We were thinking about the df meds. No idea about the WW. It's so difficult trying to figure things out. I think Im really struggling. Depression getting really bad, pregnancy getting difficult at 34 weeks, just feel very lost and completely terrified about the new baby. I just don't think I can cope

[*Becky*]

oh hugs hun, are you getting help for the depression?? Maybe post on the PPD support thread - lots of lovely ladies to support you here at BW.

I had a look and there is a WW at 17 months so it could explain something but I would def try the meds to rule out pain. FWIW we have had the same behaviour and this am M has just been so so so whiny. I looked in her mouth and there was blood where the molar is cutting so I gave her meds.

[Feefeena]

Thanks Becky. I may post on there. Poor little M. I think it's canines with Isaak.
I think there are some folk who just don't have what it takes and I really feel I'm one of them. I'm too highly strung and anxious to be a good mum. I try my best though. Just don't think I can do it all again. The newborn stage was nightmare for me. I didnt and don't cope well at all with sleep deprivation. I'm terrified of the whole thing all over again.

Thanks for the hugs-need em!

xxx

[*Becky*]

canines are really brutal...I know lo's who really were pretty unaffected by teeth but then canines came along and the whole picture changed.

So in the short term - get the meds out and see if they help.

You need to look after yourself though hun, is your DH/DP supportive? I too suffer on/off with anxiety and am def pretty highly strung and I too find the newborn phase very tough. I was all over the boards for the first 6 months of DD's life!! Even though we may find it harder does not mean we are not cut out for it though yk?

Having said that PPD and depression in general is an illness and needs to be taken seriously. Have you taken the Edinburgh test?