Author Topic: 19 month old screaming at bedtime/during the night, help with WI/WO Please!.  (Read 681 times)

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Offline Jemma88

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I've had various threads on my LOs sleeping which I've had loads of help with and Sophie did start sleeping through around 17 months which lasted about 4 weeks. We changed her into a big bed at 18 months as she fell out of her cot and she done brilliant and settled into her normal bedtime routine within 3/4 nights which was going into her bed, me saying night night and then leaving the room - She'd then either go straight to sleep or play/chat for 10mins then go to sleep with no fuss.

We started having problems at bedtime about a week ago where the first night it started she screamed and carried on and took an hour to fall asleep, she eventually fell asleep with me sitting next to her but she was shattered and woke every 2hrs and wouldn't let me leave the room until she was properly asleep and i had to sneak out. The same the following night. She then slept at my mums house the 3rd night, went to sleep fine (My mum sits with her until she falls asleep because she doesn't have a baby gate or her bedroom door). She woke once but was awake 2hrs as she had a night terror.

The 4th night she came back and even though we had the screaming at bedtime/taking ages to settle she slept okay with just 2 wake ups. The night before last again screaming at bedtime but she slept though :D

Last night she did the same and took 1hr 20mins to fall asleep, woke twice but was easy to settle, but when she woke at 4.00am she was in and out of bed screaming and carrying on and it took 25mins of me doing WI/WO before she stayed in bed and went to sleep. This is the first time she's screamed and carried on during the night.

I'm not sure if i'm doing the right thing as this has been going on a week now and it doesn't seem to be getting any better. I did GW when she was 14 months as she was rocked to sleep and it took me about 5 weeks of me staying in her room and leaving when she was asleep and then 3 weeks before i could leave the room and she'd go to sleep on her own fine. She was still in a cot so i guess it was abit easier but we didn't have the angry loud screaming.

I've been doing WI/WO when she first goes to bed and then I've ended up having to sit next to her until she falls asleep as she just seems to be in and out of bed constant and getting upset/worked up and shattered as she's making herself OT. Last night i even put her to bed 15mins later than normal in the hope she'd be tired and settle abit quicker but she still messed about.

I guess it's just a faze but in the mean time i'm just not sure what to do, do i carry on putting her into bed and walking out until she settles? Most of the time as soon as i step away from the bed or actually get to the door she's sitting up again crying. x

Now expecting our 2nd girlie, due 22nd Nov.

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What about doing GW again?  Since you're ending up staying with her anyway, do you think if you just sat down next to her bed or at the door and basically did what you did before with GW that would work?  I've only ever done WIWO successfully while my DD was in a crib, but it seems like GW would take a lot of the up and down out of the picture and she might start settling faster.  I think since you've done it in the past, she would catch on pretty quick and hopefully be back to sleeping through for you.

Are there other factors at play?  Teeth, SA, routine?  It sounds like she might have a bit of SA if she needs you there to settle in the MOTN as well.  Along with the BGB, she likely knows a change is coming with a new baby soon.