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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #120 on: November 22, 2012, 08:49:51 am »
Oh honey (((hugs))). Have the nights been getting worse or was this unusual? What do you do during a NW, just sit in her room with her?
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #121 on: November 22, 2012, 12:42:39 pm »
Last night I just sat in her room near her cot and spoke to her every so often.  Also offered a drink and medicine which she said "no" to.  She kept going quiet, and even though she was frantic some of the time it was overall calmer than a couple of weeks ago.  But after 2 hours I had totally lost the plot and so rather than resorting to shouting  ::)  :-X, I thought it would be best to pick her up and hold her  :) (good choice, Mama  ;)!). She settled really quickly and then cried again when I put her in the bed buy finally settled herself again. 

I had completely stopped feeding her in the night but at the start of her cold when she was obviously feeling rough, I did feed her in the night which I know has probably made everything so much worse  :-\.  *But* I made sure I fed her straight away rather than after a long time of her crying - as I don't want her to think that if she just keeps crying then I will cave in.  Still confusing for her though  :(. 

There's not really much else I can do is there apart from sticking with it?!
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #122 on: November 22, 2012, 13:12:43 pm »
That's interesting. Audrey will often settle really quickly with a cuddle. How have the other nights been? Are you still getting long NWs every night or was that one unusual?

I think Aud and Ev are living parallel lives, she's also had a really bad cold and needing BF at night...
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #123 on: November 23, 2012, 08:16:07 am »
4am til 5.45am  :'( :'( 

I really don't know what to do  ???.
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #124 on: November 23, 2012, 16:26:50 pm »
Quote from: Claire (&B&E) on November 23, 2012, 08:16:07 am
4am til 5.45am  :'( :'( 

I really don't know what to do  ???.

Sorry, should've said this was how long she screamed for. Then went back til 7.30am. Then has taken a 25 minute nap all day  :(. I really feel lost with what to do next as things seem to be going from bad to worse ???. Any ideas?!
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #125 on: November 23, 2012, 17:08:26 pm »
Claire, oh Hun, bless you, you must be major stressed. Can you fill me in on the status quo Hun please. Have you stopped the NF  ??? are you full on ST, or did you stop when she got sick  ??? is she better now  ???

Sorry I  need a re-cap  :-[ TS is busy and I have so many different thing in my head right now  ::) I need my brain oiling or something  ;)

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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #126 on: November 23, 2012, 18:59:53 pm »
Quote from: Sammysmammy on November 23, 2012, 17:08:26 pm
Sorry I  need a re-cap  :-[ TS is busy and I have so many different thing in my head right now  ::)

 :-* well please don't worry about trying to figure things out for me!  I know that no-one else is going to be able to fix this for us - just nice to be able to come here and get a couple of thoughts from you ladies  :)

Yes, apart from feeding her a couple of times when she started coming down with a cold I've not been feeding her in the nights or directly before sleep time (whereas a couple of weeks ago she was having 1-3 feeds a night  ::)).  I have either been sitting in her room, or sitting outside and talking to her when needed.  There has been a *lot* of crying, and it just feels horrible.  It doesn't help that she's not interested in a lovey/dummy as she doesn't seem to have any mechanism for calming herself down and just ends up crying and crying  :-[. 

She is on one nap (has been for ages as I lost the will to live as putting her down for *two* naps meant twice the time of screaming and stress  :-[).  She was, at one point, doing 12 hour (broken) nights, and 2 hour naps.  But her naps are way OT now, but I just can't seem to do anything to help her.  Tried a two nap day the other day and she didn't end up settling til 11.15am anyway   :-\. 

Quote from: anna* on November 22, 2012, 13:12:43 pm
That's interesting. Audrey will often settle really quickly with a cuddle.

She will finally settle after writhing around screaming in my arms for 5 minutes, but then will scream as soon as I put her in bed and the whole cycle just starts again - so I've really been trying not to get her out of bed as in some ways it just seems to prolong things. 

I had her asleep for 6 tonight, much later than I hoped as I had to sort Ben out too, and she took ages to settle again. 

Do you ladies think we just carry on as we are or am I missing something  :-\? 

Thanks all  :-*
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #127 on: November 23, 2012, 19:36:02 pm »
oh hugs claire, I wish I had something to offer but I know you have struggled with E's sleep for ages now. What A time do you work to for naps? I would imagine a lot of it is OT like you say but you are doing EBT's already and not sure what you can do apart from that?? I would suggest 2 naps tbh but if it makes things harder then not ideal...will have a think xxx
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #128 on: November 23, 2012, 21:48:41 pm »
Hey Hun, oh my goodness, it sounds exhausting.....

Quote from: Claire (&B&E) on November 23, 2012, 18:59:53 pm
as I put her in bed and the whole cycle just starts again

This was Sam at 10 months when I was feeding him back to sleep whilst teething, and he was waking 8 times a night. I went cold turkey with the NF and did PD and GW.

I also wish I had more to give Hun, it's just trial and error to find out how to get the most sleep in her...

So much sympathy and a Big Hug to you.

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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #129 on: November 24, 2012, 06:21:34 am »
She slept a 12 hour night :o ;D :o! She even woke at 5.45am and resettled herself  :D. 

I know that she was obviously thoroughly exhausted from her 25 minute nap, but I'm hoping that if she has slept through once it means she will be more likely to do it again. Bearing in mind how ot she is, I am wondering about whether to try for 2 naps today (easier at the wkend as dh can be with Ben).   
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #130 on: November 24, 2012, 07:59:04 am »
Oh brilliant!! I hope you managed to get some decent rest too? I'd prob try for 2 naps... Wish I could be more help, I was so hopeful that the independent sleep was going to be the answer. (((Hugs)))
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #131 on: November 24, 2012, 08:14:47 am »
Great news Hun.

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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #132 on: November 24, 2012, 08:50:13 am »
yay!
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #133 on: November 25, 2012, 07:31:36 am »
how was your day after the good night?
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Re: 15 mo, never sttn *what is this cry??*
« Reply #134 on: November 25, 2012, 13:30:22 pm »
Thanks Becky  :-*

She took ages to settle (crying) for her nap, and then took a 1hr15 min one.  Aimed for an early night but she screamed for almost an hour and finally conked out at 6.30pm.  Up at 5.10am this morning - with a couple of brief NWs.   So still better than it has been!!

I just really am struggling that she is crying so much - it just feels wrong  :-\.  She is SO ridiculously spirited though, and will often go completely crazy in the daytime if she is not getting what she wants - so I do know that this is playing a part at night time. 

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