So, because I enjoyed Mom to M&M and M2Ms' posts and thought they were super helpful, I decided I would go ahead and update the progress we are having too for anyone out there that is looking for ideas and help on this issue.
As you may already know, we are in the middle of transitioning from bottles to sippy cups for milk while implementing our new feeding strategy. Today is Day 6 with no bottle and Day 3 of our new feeding strategy.
Last night we had really good progress at dinner. We actually went out to a Mexican restaurant and ordered LO a chicken taco with rice and beans. We expected him to only eat the rice because that's all he's eaten the last few times we went there, but he actually tried and ate quite a bit of the refried beans! All I did was put a little bit of beans on the end of a fork and asked "would you like to try the beans?" and he nodded yes - I was shocked but didn't say anything just put the beans in his open and waiting mouth, watched him feel the texture and taste like he was trying to decide if he liked it or not, and then he swallowed! Then I asked "do you want another bite?" and he nodded yes again!! This is really a big deal because he has had a strong aversion to any kind of puree for months and months, and I consider refried beans a type of puree. He didn't eat all the beans, but between us feeding him bites, him attempting to use the fork and eating bites, and using his hands, he ate almost all his beans, plus all his rice and half of my husband's rice. He did not eat any chicken (although he loves bbq chicken and chicken nuggets) but at one point I helped him stab a piece of chicken with his fork and he brought it to his mouth and then changed his mind at the last second and put the fork down. It took everything DH and I had not to say anything but "it's ok, maybe next time you can try it."
This morning Michael was very grumpy when he woke up and was asking for his bottle, but we didn't give in and I've begun preparing a pre-breakfast breakfast (he gets breakfast at daycare) for when he wakes up - so this morning it was three strawberries and some dry cereal, plus his milk in a sippy cup. At first he was too angry to eat, so we just said, "ok, if your not hungry you can play while we get ready for work" at which point he decided he would eat afterall and after eating his strawberries he actually took a sip of milk from his sippy cup!!!! That was it, but I thought it was a really good step in the right direction.
He asked for more strawberries but I said "the strawberries are gone, if you are still hungry you can eat the cherrios or drink your milk." He picked the cherrios. There were a few times when it looked like he was going to fling the cherrios on the floor or feed them to our dog (boston terrier), but I would look at him and firmly say "if you throw that on the floor you are finished eating" and he would change his mind and eat it instead.
So that's my update. Things are generally progressing well but I can't wait to chart it over time to see his overall improvement in the next couple of months. I know this is selfish, but I secretly want to show up to Christmas dinner and show all my in-laws what a well behaved and good eater I have for a toddler since our nieces (3 of them) all are super picky eaters with what I consider bad table manners (standing on chairs, running around with food in their hands or their parents chasing them with a fork, etc.)