I am afraid I don't get that she managed to have a full 1.5h A so far, no? Why shorten it? I think if her BT is 21 and WU is 8:30 that's a great length of night for her age.
Oops, no you misunderstood me there, I won't shorten that A if she gets up at 8:30, I know that was what worked well with the BT. I meant if she wakes up at 6:30 AM again like she did yesterday, instead of letting her go RIGHT back to sleep after E like I did, I'd do a short A there so that her WU for the day time wouldn't end up being so late after falling back to sleep. She'd just start the day at 6:30 AM then and get in an early nap instead of going right back to sleep and starting the day at 10. I hope I made sense that time lol.
Idk what happened yesterday that didn't work for her but we had a really rough night. After I woke her up at 4:30 yesterday here's how it went:
E - 4:30
A - She finished eating about 4:45 and I changed her diaper. She was still so tired that her head was bobbing and eyes were drooping no matter what I did, so I figured, well, she definately has to squeeze another nap in before the BT routine so I better do it now before it gets too late. I put her in her swing (oh, and THANK YOU for telling me to let myself off the hook for a while with using props, sigh of relief that I'm only tackling one battle at a time lol and can work on the actual sleep training stuff later) and she fell asleep by 5:00.
S - 5:00 - 6:30
E - 6:30 - she was drowzy on the bottle but I managed to keep her up and get her to take most of the feeding
A - my mom took her to give me a break and she just did whatever she had to to keep her awake, she was NOT a happy baby, all she wanted to do was sleep. At 8:00 I gave her a bath.
E - 8:30 - again REALLY sleepy but I got her to take most of it again (**I know this was maybe too long of an evening A, but I was afraid because she had been basically napping since 2:00 except for eating and getting changed and I was also trying to cluster feed her before BT, so if she ate at 6:30 there was no way she'd eat again before 8:30. Maybe I should have let her catnap in there, idk, these late afternoon/evenings are killing me. I get all flustered wondering if I should wake her from her last nap and when etc. and she's miserable and sleepy no matter how I do it.)
S - 8:45
E DF - 10:45 (she would only take 1/2 a feeding)
S - 11:15 (that's when I gave up on the feeding and we went to bed, she was basically sleeping the whole time lol)
E - 1:45 (she hasn't done that since she was 3 weeks old)
S - 2:15
E - 4:30 - took a whole feeding
and this is where MY day started, I've been up since and it's 8:40. Idk what happened, she was WIDE awake and I tried everything from 5 AM on to get her to sleep. At one point I had to put her down to go to the bathroom and by the time I got back she had herself in such a frenzy she was practically choking from crying so hard. I calmed her down and she fell asleep in my arms.
S - 6:30
E - 7:15 (she woke up on her own)
A - I changed her diaper and clothes (figured this was when I should signal to her that it was morning) She was awake (idk how possibly, but she was)
DH got home from work and rocked her for a while. Once 8:00 came and she was just yawning like crazy we put her in the swing and turned it on lol.
S - 8:30 - finally let go and fell asleep. She's still in the swing with it on and that's where I'm leaving her! LOL
I of course am now awake and can't manage to sleep, plus I have to wake DS soon so I guess I'll manage to function today on 4.5 hrs. sleep cut in half
What you said about a 12 hr. day and a 12hr. night makes sense. A 12 hr. night is going to mean she's going to wake to eat at least twice but that's ok IF she'll go right back to sleep.
From logging so far and trying to figure her out, here's what I've finally picked up on and can keep in mind for now:
Around 10 AM, she is a happy camper. 9 x out of 10 she wants to eat at 10:00 no matter what and she'll have her once a day poop during this feeding lol. After she poops she's not interested in finishing the bottle, she just wants to hang out and "coo" at stuff lol. This is her most content time of the entire day and also when she wants a long A (like 2 hours. and she's honestly content the whole time).
The mistake I think I've been making is trying to get her right to S after this nice long A and I think I'm having a hard time getting this crutial nap in because she's hungry (never takes all of the 10:00 E and it's been 2 hours since then). What I think I need to change is that I need to do a EAES here or we're never going to get the S and I think that her getting OT from not getting that particular nap is what messes up the whole day and then of course messes up the night. After 2 weeks of logging this is a very consistant time of the day.
God help me lol, we're on some sort of UTOT train and I want OFF! LOL I looked at the sticky thread that's "support for spirited babies" and I'm seeing that a lot of these babies need a EAES somewhere in the day and they just don't always follow EASY perfectly. I hope I'm on to something here and am starting to figure out what she needs because as much as I'm tired and miserable, I feel like she is too.
Oh, you asked me if she might not be a touchy baby, based on the quiz she fits right in there with spirited and I laughed when I saw that because "spirited" is a good word for her little personality lol. She can be touchy at times though, yes, and that was what came in second with the quiz. Thought I'd let you know in case that helps you to help me LOL.
There I go rambling again lol. You know I almost poured my coffee into the sugar bowl this morning instead of my cup lol. Anyway, I'll keep logging like I said and I'll do my best to relax and go with the flow
I am going to try the EAES starting from the 10AM E and see if I can get a decent nap out of her that way to avoid the evening melt down. What will happen the rest of the day after that I have no clue lol but at least I think I have that figured out. Then I'll just shoot for a 8PM BT and hopefully everything in between will fall into place soon.
So, just wanted to clear up that confusion and show you the crazy night after the crazy day yesterday. I have a feeling that once I get her sorted out, she's going to be like a different baby once she's on a structured schedule, as long as I help her stick to it anyway