Hi dear mums,
I have 3 children and I am supposed to know about it but I am still lost... The first 6 months of my two first daughters have been horrible and I don't want to be in that with my son. I hope you will be able to help me.
My son is 15 weeks now. He is sleeping during the day in the bassinet (but not in the stroller except when I am out with him) and during the night in his crib.
After a first difficult months because of colics and gaz, he slept very well during the night until he was 12 weeks old. There was always more than 6 hours between 2 feeds (and wakings) during the night, sometimes even 8 hours. At this time, the naps were more difficult and he was sleeping several of them wrapped with me or his father.
Between 12 weeks and 14 weeks, the days became wonderful, with all the naps in the bassinet (but not walking) and no use of baby carrier and wrap anymore. But he was waking up every 3 to 4 hours during the night. When he was waking up, I was breastfeeding him and he was back to sleep without any problem. Just the nights were more difficult than before. At the beginning I thought that it was a growth spurt, but it was like that for 3 weeks which seems to be too much for a growth spurt. At this time, he was on a 3 hours EASY rutine, and I tried to extend a little bit the activity time to see if it was helping. This started with the clock change end of october. I don't know if it can be related as I live in Scandinavia wher it is now really dark.
But since saturday, it is getting worse. The days are still wonderful, he is always happy, easy to fall asleep and having good activity time. But the nights are getting horrible. He is now waking up every 2,5 hours. I am not sure that he is hungry so often as during the day, he is more now on a 3,5 h routine and he could even be on a 4 hours sometimes. The main change that has happened is that he was sleeping during the night in a specific pillow called cocoonababy where he was like in a nest or a cocoon and we had to give it back to the people who lend it to us.
He was using a dummy only during the day until now. I tried to give him the dummy during the night to resettle him. He seems to be comforted, but he cries again 5 to 10 minutes after. The nights are a bit better if he sleeps in the bassinet instead of the crib, but not much.
A last point, the feeds are very very short during the day, sometimes 3 minutes each side. During the night, it can be until 10 minutes each side, but not really more. But I can still pump something like 40 to 60 mL milk after a feed so I don't think it is because I have not enough milk. He is very tall for his age, but was already tall and big at birth.
Now I don't know what to do. Is it hunger or not? (I have read in one post that you advise to feed the baby if he wakes up after 3 or 4 hours or if he wakes up again less than 30 minutes after having been resettled). Is the dummy a prop for him (during the night, he falls asleep on his own, during the day, most of the time with the pacifier)? Is it a development gap and if yes what can I do? Do I have to feed him during the night, to resettle him with the pacifier or by another way? I have never managed to do shh pat. Is ot too early for PU/PD? Do I have to change his EASY schedule (which is not so easy with my other children)?
I write you here an example of his last days, which are not always the same depending how much I am out during the day beacause he falls asleep as soon as he is in the stroller, even if it is activity time.
8:35 E
9:00 A
10:00 S (we had to go out)
12:00 E
12:15 A
13:45 S
15:10 E (I woke him up because I wanted to feed him before leaving)
15:20 A
16:00 S (my husband had to go out with him)
18:15 E
18:45 A
20:15 S
21:30 E
22:00 S
00:00 wake up and then several wakes up until 1:10
1:10 E
1:35 S
3:45 wake up, ressetled in the bassinet
4:00 S
6:00 E
next day
6:00 E
6:30 S
8:20 E (very long feed)
9:10 A
10:00 S
11:25 E
11:30 A
11:50 S (I had to go out)
12:15 A (did not want to eat)
13:00 E
13:10 A
13:30 S
15:40 E
15:55 A
16:30 S (I had to go out to pick up my children)
17:30 A
18:45 E
19:00 A
20:00 S
22:15 DF (but we don't manage not to wake him up...)
22:40 S
00:30 wake up, sleep again with the pacifier, and this 3 times until 2:30
2:30 E
3:00 S
4:45 wake up, sleep again in the bassinet
6:15 E
6:45 A
8:00 S
10:00 E
10:10 A
10:55 : S (I had to go)
12:15 E
12:30 A
13:15 S
15:10 E
15:25 A
16:35 S (I had to leave to pick up my children)
18:20 E (I woke him up)
18:32 A
20:15 S
23:30 E
23:55 S
2:15 woke up and at 2:30
3:30 E (diapers and clothes to be changed because of leakage)
4:25 S (perhaps some waking ups, I don't remember)
And today
6:30 E
6:50 A
8:00 S
10:45 E
10:55 A
12:15 S (in the stroller)
14:50 E
15:05 A
Sorry, it is a bit long... Thank you very much for your help.
Alex