Hunger was ruled out because we said she would wake up even 30mins after bedtime (~45mins after dinner, even big dinner). And when we turned on the light, she looks awake and seems happy, rather than showing any sign of hunger. Right now, my wife brought her on our bed and breastfeeding but she just use it as a prop rather than actually eating anything. The ped said that we should give her more food, as much as we can and as long as our LO agrees to take.
We read Tracy's book and totally understand the trust issue as well as using props. That's why I came on here to ask for your opinions before going back to CC again. We had tried hard and used PU/PD but the LO would go to sleep only to wake up 30 mins, 1h, or even 15mins later. As for prop, we also tried hard not to use any, but it got to the point where we just couldn't hold off anymore. We would turn on the light, giving her dummy, playing with her, bringing her to our bed, walking her around.
Maybe these things just make the nights more appealing to her now?
BUT, now, she's currently on bed with us and still refusing to sleep. Isn't she supposed to feel good with us and should sleep? We really don't know what to do. She shows sign of tiredness, but don't want to get down.
Absolutely no idea!
Update: I've seen your question jessmum46. Here are our answers.
Is your DD going to sleep independently for naps and bedtime at the moment?
For naps, most of the time yes. Bedtime is on and off. A week into applying EASY (more than a month ago), definitely yes. Put her to bed and away she went. Not anymore now. Some days yes, some days no (with the same routine). Since streching A times (2 weeks ago), it is more yes than no.
Have you ever used shh pat or PUPD consistently for a good week or more?
Yes, I'd say. First, we only used shh/pat. It worked in the sense that it got her back to sleep. But over the course of a few days since starting, it no longer worked. As for PUPD, we didn't use it at the beginning but when shh/pat failed, we did use it vigorously. But as I said, she would sleep only 30mins or 1h or 2h before getting up again. We did it again and the same thing happened. Or some nights, PUPD worked after 15minns, the next time in the same night only worked after 1h or 2h of PUPD. For nearly a week I believe. And it's just getting worse and worse. So we had to turn on the light, starting using props and so on.
The real problem during the PUPD period actually was that her cry was kind of a mantra cry. We didn't pick her up, but instead let her cry, and sometimes comforted her using words. Then she slept. No need for PUPD then. But the situation was worsening over a week, then we stopped.
How many milk feeds is she having per 24h? And how much if you are using bottles?
My DW is breastfeeding. But not much now. Only in the morning and evening before bed. About 10-15mins. Occasionally during lunch too. It seems like our DD is full after all those solids.
Have you, or are you willing to try any conventional pain relief medications to see if they help?
We used Osa gel and Camillia when suspecting teething for 3 days, but no improvement so we stopped. The last 3 days, we're giving her 2 homeopathy Viburcol suppositories per day. The last 2 nights, one Dafalgan suppository before bed or midnight each.
