I hope you all won't think I'm a quitter...
Last night, I decided to go back to the method that helped us once before. It just seems like ds is getting more and more attached to the idea of nursing to sleep instead of learning to sleep on his own. I know this is probably my fault for not sticking to his bedtime every night, and not doing the routine consistently, but the holidays are just killing us here, and we need to get some results before jan 10th so sadly I am giving up the no crying thing...
Last night I bf and after like 10 tries of the gentle removal, I just decided no more. I sat with him and held him with his back to me and kind of rocked him and sang to him until he pretty much fell asleep. Then I put him in his crib, and he woke up, so I picked him up and walked around the room with him slowly, singing to him. He whined and pushed me away, and tried to look at every little thing in his room, until he finally got really really sleepy, almost completely asleep, and I put him in his crib. He opened his eyes a little, but after a few minutes of pat/sh he went back to sleep. He woke up a couple more times after that, but only needed pat/sh.
At around 1:30 he woke up and I bf. He woke up again at 3:30 and since he couldn't be hungry again I just walked with him again until he fell asleep and put him in his crib. And when he woke up at 5:30 dh brought him to our bed and I bf and he slept until around 7.
I know walking with him is probably another prop, but I think I can handle this one a little better that bf as a prop. I was really getting to the point they talk about in the pages of the book BetsyAnh posted. I was starting to resent my little precious and then hate myself for it :oops:
This method worked for us pre-teething disaster, I had almost gotten to the point where I only had to walk with him for like a minute before I put him in his crib. So I will give it a shot.
Please don't think I am trying to discourage anyone from doing the no cry solution, it's just that for us, right now, it wasn't the best way. If we had had more time, or if it was another time of the year, it might have worked, who knows...
Thanks for all the great advice and good luck with your los!!!