too many night wakings..

[amayzie]

Ok- i think that the night wakings followed by resettling in mummy's bed have now gone from 'no problem' to 'big problem'


So- what is my best bet for dealing with it? WIWO? Currently he akes up crying, then i go in (yup- always me) an he asks for a drink. We go to the kitchen to get a drink- then he asks to go into 'mummy's bed'. Once there he USUALLY falls asleep quite fast- as do I. I then carry him into his bed after an hour or so (whenever i ake up again..) Currently if i put him in his on bed he starts crying and won't resettle I thought i'd wait till the weekend to start....

[ZacsMumme]

Has WI/WO ever worked in the past? Personally I think it's your best bet if he's been an independent sleeper before. Otherwise it's so drawn out YK?

Can daddy do WI/WO I always made DH do it lol

[ZacsMumme]

Or I just thought if you wanted to do GW you could hold his hand in the cot then leave when he is asleep, but really. If your over it, your over it!

[zeri]

((hugs)) and good luck! We have been fighting NW for wages with my DS - he never sleeps through. I  know if I let him out of his bed, it is game over. If he wants drink he gets a sippy in his bed. I guess I would try WIWO, with a preparatory. DS is usually more receptive if i can get him to agree to whatever it is with simple explanations and at this age they understand more than they let on!

[gwcarnes]

How old is he?  One of my twins began doing the same thing around her second birthday.  she is almost 28 months and still wakes at nealrly the same time each night wants water and my bed.

[Khalam's Mama]

I agree don't let him up to get a drink. I take a drink up at bt and just pass it in. Might not work but I got away by laying with him a bit then claiming the need to pee and he was asleep when I returned and tg Got out of the habit.

[Shiv52]

Agree. No getting out of bed. Leave a sippy within reach so he can get it himself. I'm a bit of a chicken and given he's been used to sleeping in your bed I'd probably resettle and stay until he's resettled for a few nights then start leaving.

This is from us whose 2.5 YO is so used to sleeping with us that we, well not we but DH, is currently sleeping on her floor to resettle a silly number of NWs and to keep her in bed. We're down to one so nearly there. DH might get back to bed in a few nights!!

[ZacsMumme]

Oh and yes, I agree with others re drink. What we did was take a sippy or glass in when you do the resettling and offer in the cot. But then Z only ever wakes for it for habit to get us in or to stay iykwim. If he needs it regularly then within reach is a good idea. 

Does he have a night light?

[amayzie]

Thanks ladies for all of your thoughts!! I've been reading them all day... I see that i'll have to leave him in the cot. I might get a leak proof cup and put it in the cot ith him perhaps...

THe thing is i just haven't found any success with settling in the cot for AGES- he just cries hysterically while i'm standing there with him and not picking him up. I have tried before at bed time but it sort of doesn't seem to work. I've tried getting him to sit down and a full range of things.. I think i'll get a bit hard core on it on the weekend. I'll start with the drink in bed... He has a cold at the moment but it should be gone on the weekend.

He does have a night light but we've only just started using it... What was your thought with that question Sara?

[*Becky*]

THe thing is i just haven't found any success with settling in the cot for AGES- he just cries hysterically while i'm standing there with him and not picking him up.

I found the same with M with our recent long NWings but DH had a lot more success. I think with me she REALLY wants a cuddle so is less likely to settle whereas with DH he got her back to sleep more quickly. Just a thought.

[ZacsMumme]

Around this age we had to get a night light for Z, it helped him feel safer and he could find things easier ie lovey, pacis, for you water maybe ,

Ok, he will scream...he wants you to pick him up. This is why DH did it in our house too. We couldn't stay in there either, he was worse if we were in there all the time. Unfortunately at this age I don't think there is a 'no cry' solution for a lot of them, but consistency with a previous independent sleeper will pay off fast I think. Like 3 days and you should be able to be in and out in 5 mins.

With Z we had over an hour closer to 2 the first night, he is uber spirited next night was 45 then 5. DH learnt pretty quick what was 'I need you' vs angry tantrum too.

It is really really hard at this age but were all were to help you if you want to try WI/WO x

[amayzie]

yeah- WIWO has not really done much in the past other than get him so cranky and upset that then i could pick him up and cuddle him to settle him! I'll see how i go..

I think i'll try the night light again. We got this cute little cover for the gro egg that has an owl sleeping (wishful thinking) - but the first night e went in to see him standing up talking to the owl!! The novelty may have worn off...

[koe2moe]

I would definitely give him a leak proof sippy in cot, so he has full control.  Next to his cot, you can try sitting on the floor and pat on the mattress and tell him to lay down.  Starting tonight?

[Shiv52]

Hugs x

I agree with Sara. It's rarely an I need you cry at this age, its generally 'why aren't you lifting me into your bed woman, how dare you change what I'm used to' cry. If you right there then even if it is an I need you cry you can still provide comfort without picking up.

[amayzie]

I think i'll be giving it a go rather than DH- he has man flu at the moment and needs his beauty sleep...

I'll see how i go tonight but i don't think i'll have much stamina with work tomorrow.. the long weekend might be just the time to do it!